i think it was labor day when you arrived.

[falltotry]

i don't like it when holiday weather is not dazzlingly lovely, thus today i am not out on my bike, and i could be considered to be "wasting" my first work-sanctioned holiday ever because i am sitting on my bed (though not exactly in my underwear, so that's something at least) bittorrenting episodes of house and wondering why i am not enjoying it as

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[falltotry]

i would really like to be a part of a scene which actually takes care of its own and says to people who are known to be in relationships with sexual predators "you are unwelcome, i have to ask you to leave" not only because it seems like it's morally right or something but also because it's the effing respectful thing to do (i'm assuming the person their friend/lover/etc. assaulted is a part of the aforementioned scene as well). i'm not sure whether or not i am. i guess this stems from my friend being contacted last week (as in the original question), and her asking me if "yes, i am planning to ignore you forever because your boyfriend is scum" was an appropriate response and me agreeing vehemently that it was. she wanted to run it past a few more of our friends before she wrote back (because i guess she felt that since this girl was technically contacting her collective, it wasn't her place to respond personally), and i am really hoping i'm right in assuming they'll agree as well.

one thing i am contemplating is whether or not it is possible to belong to a community while simultaneously hating people in it. for instance, can you kick out a rapist, yet allow a rapist's friends to remain and personally refuse to associate with them? or does that defeat the purpose? i, personally, would stay as far away from these people as possible, but unless i am directly involved in the situation, i.e. i was the one assaulted, i feel like i have te right to request that others do the same but not to demand it.

yes to penpals! omg, i get to make you a mixtape and possibly send you stickers! just like it was the early 90s!! sweet! we should exchange omgreal! addresses. i certainly hope i am moving soonish. if i do, i'll be sure to let you know.

[vertebreak]

same here. i'm disturbed by the way the situation i spoke of has been dealt with by the community i'm surrounded by. (i'm not sure if i want to consider myself part of the community i'm speaking of, either.) anyway, i agree: i think your friend's response is entirely appropriate.
this is something that has been on my mind, too. i'm not sure what the solution is, or if there really is one since people in "activist"/"radical"/queer/whathaveyou communities never seem to agree on any one thing. i DO know that neither i nor my friends want to be anywhere around people who refuse to quit associating with sexual predators, though. it's pretty disheartening (not to mention disgusting) when members of a so-called "radical" community do NOT handle the issues of sexual assault and misogyny in a truly radical way.

!!!! so stoked! do you want to e-mail me your address? if so, i'll send you mine.

[falltotry]

i will totally email you my zomgreal!address and then awesomeness will ensue!

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