If you remember my thrilling possible appearance with asexuality on Channel 4, this is the minor followup. I was invited to be a part a studio audience, be shown small sections of the show, and then asked questions on the themes brought up by them.

It was overall, a good day. Very exciting, being on tv and all, and some of the people were very ( Read more... )

I was looking at this thread on AVEN (the asexual visibility and education network) and flicking through some of the statistics.

I find it interesting that more than 76% of asexuals have been told that they've got to try sex to know they are ase (despite, y'know, most straight people having never had sex with someone of the same sex to check they ( Read more... )

I was going to post about (and still am), my glee at finding a reference to asexuality in 'Homophobia: A History' by Byrne Fone. While discussing the ancient Greeks and Romans, he describes Lucian of Samosata's play the 'Erotes', which describes four men. Theomnestus likes men and women, Charicles likes the ladies and is described by as possibly ( Read more... )

I find it much easier to define as 'queer' these days. The first time this got suggested to me was by Ruth, when I was very drunk, and I explained that I'd heard it in a negative context so many times, that I didn't like it ( Read more... )

I've heard people say that places like AVEN are places people go to hide from their sexuality; they go there to be 'indoctrinated' somehow into not being sexual people, beacuse they're cut off from all other options. As David Jay says - you don't go to AVEN and just stop talking.

Thread like this show just how unrealistic it is. It shows the true ( Read more... )

I remember in my early days on The Student Room, talking about asexuality and someone said:

I'd've thought that 'coming out' as asexual is roughly as useful as 'coming out' as a person who doesn't eat yellow fruit pastilles. I mean, someone might come out as gay so that other people who are gay know who he/she is and might approach them. If you're ( Read more... )

I'm now Asexual Coordinator for the Queer Youth Network.

That was unexpected! But rather exciting. I'm in charge of ase campaigning now. It's a pretty big organisation too!

I will now plan, think and panic in equal measure.

It's something that ase, gay and trans people do.

It's understood as important for bi, gay and trans people - after all, if you're going to be true to yourself, your friends and love ones are going to notice, and it would be sensible to get them used to the idea beforehand. It's also seen as a scary, scary thing to do. This is, again, very ( Read more... )

It's a very interesting and crushingly depressing book. I feel very lucky to be alive today.

Like all sensible readers of a big fat textbook, I started in the middle with the end of the renaissance, and I'm nearing the end of the Victorian era.

Some fun facts about the treatment of 'convicted sodomites' 
Henry the 8th made sodomy a secular rather than ( Read more... )

I went to see them today - I got to talk about sexuality and the various out-lying related subjects with three other women for almost two hours. I love it. I should force people I know to do this more... I know I've pinned down Ed, Ruth, Chris, Harriet, and at first pride Liz , Helen and Lauren and gone on for a loooooooong time, but I should do it ( Read more... )