We're hardly repressive...
I've heard people say that places like AVEN are places people go to hide from their sexuality; they go there to be 'indoctrinated' somehow into not being sexual people, beacuse they're cut off from all other options. As David Jay says - you don't go to AVEN and just stop talking.
Thread like this show just how unrealistic it is. It shows the true spirit of AVEN.
It's an amazing place for self-discovery.