She's assuming that you've accepted the word of one medical professional and haven't sought multiple opinions. It sucks. I would write her a note. Lots of women do accept bullshit about not being able to birth their babies. She's making a lot of assumptions based on that and that's not cool. Call her on it.
I'm pretty sure I'll be writing her a note, but I want to cool down first and think about what to say so that I don't sound like... well, this post, when I send it. I'm trying to figure out how to word it to get my ideas across without sounding overly defensive (which I totally am right now) or accusatory.
I would also love to see you this weekend, but we'll be out of town!! :( BUT we'll be back the weekend after, and will also be here the weekend after that (14-16). And most of December. :) Please check your calendar and let me know when we can do this!
There are some really strong birthing opinions in the world and most people see it as only black and white. Sadly, for a lot of us women out there there is a strong grey area, and we sit dead center of it.
She assumed a lot of things about you without asking questions first. I believe if you want to talk to her about it and the community is worth it enough to you, you should. The way she assumed things about you is not fair, but on the other side she may be the type that thinks her way is the ONLY way.
Is the community worth it? Hard to say. I would hate to see her attack others for the same reasons, and I'm afraid that I'm not the only one who's going to get it from her before it's all said and done. Then I'll be Momma Bulldog and defending OTHER people, which makes me meaner than when I want to defend myself!
I'm so sorry that happened to you sweetie! It makes me think of my sister-in-law who was razzed by a breast feeding enthusiast for giving her son a bottle. What that nasty person didn't know and didn't bother to find out is that she had tried really hard to nurse. The pediatrician and the lactation consultant had agreed that the baby's tong was too short to latch on properly. They told her to try again at four months, but for now bottles were best. My darling and devoted mother of a sister-in-law has pumped and bottled every single drop her son has ever drank since! When he was about 2 months old the lactation consultant told her to pump ever 3 hours at that point. The baby wanted to eat every 4 or 5. She didn't change the feeding or pumping schedule! She just got up an extra 2 or 3 times every single night. How dare anyone pick on her about not nursing
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Thank you... I loved your story! Except where the bitch came in and tried to ruin it for your sister in law (who is a freaking saint, by the way!!)
I gotta tell you... I had to pump and bottle feed Carmen for just one and a half weeks, and it was HELL.
I do admire women (and men) who are breastfeeding advocates. I'm one of them. But I also give people the benefit of the doubt that the stuff in their bottle isn't poisonous if we're in public and I see someone giving a bottle to a baby. To actually say or do something to that mother is simply harassment, and completely uncalled for.
But I also give people the benefit of the doubt that the stuff in their bottle isn't poisonous if we're in public and I see someone giving a bottle to a baby
Except when it's Coca Cola. Yes, I saw this once. In a hospital waiting room of all places.
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I would also love to see you this weekend, but we'll be out of town!! :( BUT we'll be back the weekend after, and will also be here the weekend after that (14-16). And most of December. :) Please check your calendar and let me know when we can do this!
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She assumed a lot of things about you without asking questions first. I believe if you want to talk to her about it and the community is worth it enough to you, you should. The way she assumed things about you is not fair, but on the other side she may be the type that thinks her way is the ONLY way.
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I gotta tell you... I had to pump and bottle feed Carmen for just one and a half weeks, and it was HELL.
I do admire women (and men) who are breastfeeding advocates. I'm one of them. But I also give people the benefit of the doubt that the stuff in their bottle isn't poisonous if we're in public and I see someone giving a bottle to a baby. To actually say or do something to that mother is simply harassment, and completely uncalled for.
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Except when it's Coca Cola. Yes, I saw this once. In a hospital waiting room of all places.
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