Lately I've been having conversations with various friends about which words and terms that are not "four-letter-words" were still forbidden in our homes growing up. A couple of people have told me "shut up" was/is on this list of things you just don't say. It was never directly expressed that that is off limits for my family, but it really wasn't
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She ran to my house crying, to tell on me. My mom said, "well you shouldn't have called her stupid!"
Of course now I look at this and see how wrong my mom was for "blaming the victim" but insults of intelligence were a HUGE offense in my house. I also couldn't say, "shut up, hate, or of course the "traditionally profane words." One of only two times my mom ever slapped me (ugh) was when I was 6 years old and said, "shit" when I fell on a concrete road in Spain. ('Cause you know the fact that it was Spanish concrete is so relevant to this story) And then she took a picture of my tear-stained, slap-streaked face :/
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Also couldn't say "pee," "poop," or "butt."
I don't know how I survived.
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This actually reminds me of how our relationship changed as I got older. When I was as old at 16 the word penis was so taboo it warranted an hour long lecture from my mother. But later in life she talked openly about how she told her doctor's she still had a sex drive. lol
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And I found the strip online, yay!
http://mobile.salon.com/mwt/comics/barry/2000/04/21/demons2/index.html
(Click "Next Page" at the bottom right to read more.)
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Aaww, yay! thanks!
Also, taking the Lord's name was something kind of sporadically enforced in my home. So it always caught me off guard. lol Like "wait what? oh yeah." It took me a long time to learn what that even meant because they were so random with it. lol
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"good hair" & "bad hair" were DEFINITELY bad words in my parents' house. i wasn't raised to think in that way, so i never said either, but anyone who used those terms in front of my dad got a very lengthy & severe talking-to.
i wasn't allowed to refer to anyone as "poor"...
couldn't say "crack baby" (this is only relevant because 1 of my neighbors was generally considered to be one). i could say "retarded" but not in reference to people, only to situations.
i had to argue my case with my mother about the right to say "that sucks", lol...
hmmm what else...my parents took issue with various slang terms.
as i got older, i became the person who told my parents what they were not allowed to say in front of me, ex: fag, dyke, ( ... )
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lol I can imagine.
"good hair" & "bad hair" were DEFINITELY bad words in my parents' house."
Ooooh. I think those and crack baby will also not be spoken in my house. And ghetto as a pejorative.
"as i got older, i became the person who told my parents what they were not allowed to say in front of me, ex: fag, dyke, bitch, cracker, slut etc..."
I think eventually I'm gonna have to have this kind of conversation with my older cousins. I can just see it happening.
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i'm sure that approach is not the best & wouldn't work for every kid, but i knew a lot more than most of my friends did.
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