Before & After

[dyvinesweetness]

Blatantly stolen from here

Poll Post Coitus

So here's another question (not stolen). TV often depicts people that seem frustrated with partners that ask them for directions in the bedroom. So I'm wondering if this is a reflection of how people really view those kinds of questions or if it's just a reflection of the people that tend to become TV writers. So...

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[captain_brad]

I chose smoke, but really it's a multi tiered combo of smoking, cuddling, and napping.

I was raised in a pretty asexual environment, and it definitely lingers. I'm much more comfortable talking about sex with my partners than I used to be, but still not 100%.

[dyvinesweetness]

I was too. I think now I'm SO over-the-top and extra about sex and sexuality as a response to my puritan upbringing.

[captain_brad]

My main problem now is infrequent sex and/or relationships and a fairly low libido. Lack of opportunity for discussion = lack of discussion = not being practiced in such discussions.

Gah. I need to get laid. :/

[toodani]

I chose sleep/rest because that's the strongest response. Like if it's late at night and I'm not sleepy, I will use sex/orgasms as a way to put me to sleep. But usually the flow goes sex:snack:cuddle:sleep

[dyvinesweetness]

"After a few partners that had issues with receiving"

Ok, I assume you don't want to talk about it (at leats not in a public entry), but I have to ask, what issues did they have?

"I think I would respond more to a "it feels good when you ..."."

That's how I like to "command" in general. More of a focus on the positive. Unless it's just painful.

[forwhataim]

Someone asking me what I want any time other than immediately preceding/during sex might bother or frustrate me because it's not timely. What I want changes with my mood. My body responds differently at different times. But it's great if you're asking when it's time to make it happen as long as you're listening to the answer and making it happen. No asking mad questions just to be talking or whatever. I like to concentrate on my pleasure and trying to hold a convo detracts from that.

Also ditto on the dumbassery of "but you look/feel horny!"

[dyvinesweetness]

"What I want changes with my mood. My body responds differently at different times."

That's a good point. When I think back to like a few years back, I know my preferences have changed. But I still have general things that I like that are constants (being pinned down, spanking, etc).

"Also ditto on the dumbassery of "but you look/feel horny!"

I'm sitting there like "I think I know better than you, asshole!" I love the idea that someone thinks they know another person's body better than that person. Such male shit to do.

[papi]

Cuddle/talk, but that usually gives way right into sleep. Especially at night.

If it's a weekend morning, I want some daggone pancakes and eggs.