I don’t really know if this happens everywhere or if it’s just a Chilean trait, but one of the most annoying topics of conversation here are romantic relationships and children
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As an adopted baby myself, I have to say that blood doesn't mean anything! Hahaha ^_^ You are a wonderful, caring mother! I think any child would be damn lucky to call you, mom! Related biologically or not
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I think people are always confused when they meet a woman who doesn't want to have any children. A woman who doesn't want to make babies? What? How unnatural! Heaven forbid women be anything except mothers.
Motherhood isn't compulsory, it is a choice.
You are a wonderful person and a great mother. Don't let anyone take away YOUR choice.
Thank you so much for your words. It's fantastic to see this form the perspective of an adopted child and it warms my heart to think that someday, a little boy or girl I adopted will see life exactly as you do. Many, many hugs!!!!
Well, it somehow makes me feel better to know Chile isn't the only society whem friends and family like to meddle with other people's life. LOL.
some of the most wonderful people in my life are not related to me at all. And family is not about blood but relationships.
That precisely how I see it!
And to tell the truth, I'm not at all concerned about what my family might think. The only person who has a real right to say something about this is my husband, because, after all, he will be raising this kid with me. But if he finally agrees to adopt, I'll do it without a second thought about what my parents or other people could think. Really! :D
Oh, my gosh, are we related?!? I've had those very same discussions with family, friends, and even people who barely knew me telling me that I'd be a "fantastic Mom" and should get to the babymaking ASAP. I even had a guy "flirt" with me by telling me he didn't believe someone "as pretty as you" didn't already have "a bunch of babies." (I was a single, early-twenties college kid at the time.)
Adopting a baby is a wonderful idea. Sure, it's nice to have a baby all your own, but nicer to spread all that love around a little bit.
Stick to your guns. It's your body. And since you've already experienced postpartum depression, you might want to keep that in mind -- it's nothing to mess around with.
Finally, Connie is damned lucky to have you as a Mom. Any child would be. *hugs*
You know, I've been thinking that we ARE related! We seem to have so much in common, BB!!! :D
I even had a guy "flirt" with me by telling me he didn't believe someone "as pretty as you" didn't already have "a bunch of babies." OMG, and that's what he called "to flirt"??? LOL, I would have punched him in the face, XD.
Sure, it's nice to have a baby all your own, but nicer to spread all that love around a little bit.
Exactly. The way I see it, I already fullfilled whatever biological purpose Mother Nature gave me, or all the other nonsense people talk about.
And now I think I still have lots of love to give to another little person. And there are LOTS of little persons already living in this world, parentless and in need of a caring family. Specially if we're talking about the older kids, those who nobody wants to adopt.
So... wouldn't it be great to give one of those kids what they need so much? What's wrong with that, I say??
Yo encuentro que la adopción merece mucho más respeto, incluso que eso de la fertilización asistida (me da lo mismo aunque lo encuentro un gasto de plata gigante). Es una de las cosas que me da lata de este país ya que somos bien homogéneos. Esperamos que todos vayan por el mismo camino. Me recuerda un poco a "Cometas en el Cielo" con lo de los comentarios de la gente sobre la adopción. He conocido al menos 2 casos de adopciones (tengo un amigo que él y su hermana son adoptados) y personalmente, siento que se han sacado la lotería. Además, con los hijos "biológicos", uno también asume riesgos de la salud de ellos y al final, uno los termina queriendo igual.
Así que PICO con eso... bueno, con lo de Rodri, habrá que tener paciencia y MUUUUCHO diálogo entre ustedes. Pero el conocido no tiene pito que tocar en tus decisiones.
Precisamente. Vivimos en un país donde todos estamos de acuerdo que la adopción es algo muy bonito y noble... en teoría. Porque cuando se trata de hacerlo en la práctica, a todos les parece TAAAAAN extraño!
Con respecto a Ro, como tú dices, él es el único con derecho a cuestionar mi decisión. Y él no se opone a la adopción per se, sólo que quiere tener más hijos biológicos entre medio... -__-;
I have to say, I get questions like that mainly here, not when I'm in Germany. Number one question is always "why are you here in Chile? Did you marry here?". Yes, because the only reason I could come here is because I got married, ugh. Impossible that I'm an independent person who's here because I like it here!
I'm really glad that Juan and I share the same ideas - neither one of us wants to get married nor have children. It always shocks people, they have said stuff like "if my boyfriend hadn't asked me for marriage after 11 years (that's how long we've been together), I'd leave him!". I find that so superficial, I don't understand why I have to sign a paper at the registro civil to lead a happy life, actually, I'm extremely happy as it is, thank you very much!!!!
That's so great that you want to adopt, my cousin is adopted and it's never been a subject of arguments or anything. He's always been a part of our family.
OMG, I know. And believe I get second hand embarrasment when I think about it. A friend of mine and her boyfriend lived in Chile last year and they were constantly amazed at the amount of people asking them why weren't married and when did they plan to have kids.
It's like the medieval times here! When the only goal in a woman's life was to get married and have a bunch of babies (preferably boys, of course).
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Heaven forbid women be anything except mothers.
Motherhood isn't compulsory, it is a choice.
You are a wonderful person and a great mother.
Don't let anyone take away YOUR choice.
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And thanks again for your support! It means a lot to me.
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Many, many hugs!!!!
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some of the most wonderful people in my life are not related to me at all. And family is not about blood but relationships.
That precisely how I see it!
And to tell the truth, I'm not at all concerned about what my family might think. The only person who has a real right to say something about this is my husband, because, after all, he will be raising this kid with me. But if he finally agrees to adopt, I'll do it without a second thought about what my parents or other people could think. Really! :D
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Adopting a baby is a wonderful idea. Sure, it's nice to have a baby all your own, but nicer to spread all that love around a little bit.
Stick to your guns. It's your body. And since you've already experienced postpartum depression, you might want to keep that in mind -- it's nothing to mess around with.
Finally, Connie is damned lucky to have you as a Mom. Any child would be. *hugs*
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I even had a guy "flirt" with me by telling me he didn't believe someone "as pretty as you" didn't already have "a bunch of babies." OMG, and that's what he called "to flirt"??? LOL, I would have punched him in the face, XD.
Sure, it's nice to have a baby all your own, but nicer to spread all that love around a little bit.
Exactly. The way I see it, I already fullfilled whatever biological purpose Mother Nature gave me, or all the other nonsense people talk about.
And now I think I still have lots of love to give to another little person. And there are LOTS of little persons already living in this world, parentless and in need of a caring family. Specially if we're talking about the older kids, those who nobody wants to adopt.
So... wouldn't it be great to give one of those kids what they need so much? What's wrong with that, I say??
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Así que PICO con eso... bueno, con lo de Rodri, habrá que tener paciencia y MUUUUCHO diálogo entre ustedes. Pero el conocido no tiene pito que tocar en tus decisiones.
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Con respecto a Ro, como tú dices, él es el único con derecho a cuestionar mi decisión. Y él no se opone a la adopción per se, sólo que quiere tener más hijos biológicos entre medio... -__-;
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I'm really glad that Juan and I share the same ideas - neither one of us wants to get married nor have children. It always shocks people, they have said stuff like "if my boyfriend hadn't asked me for marriage after 11 years (that's how long we've been together), I'd leave him!". I find that so superficial, I don't understand why I have to sign a paper at the registro civil to lead a happy life, actually, I'm extremely happy as it is, thank you very much!!!!
That's so great that you want to adopt, my cousin is adopted and it's never been a subject of arguments or anything. He's always been a part of our family.
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It's like the medieval times here! When the only goal in a woman's life was to get married and have a bunch of babies (preferably boys, of course).
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