I actually went to a wedding once where they put a request for money to pay for a honeymoon on their invitation. The thing that made it even more tacky was that after people went to the trouble of giving them money for a honeymoon they decided to use the cash to buy a used car (a Volkswagen Rabbit they found on the internet, no less) instead. Long story short... the car turned out to be a useless pile of shit (surprise!) that they couldn't get anyone else to buy... so they ended up with no honeymoon and piece of shit car.
it's another "we f'd up and had a child, we're living in one of our parents house and we figure getting married will solve alllllll our problems as long as everyone gives us lots and lots of cash"
I love the comments too...I googled "presentation only". Apparently people put this phrase right on their invites to indicate they only want cash!! Wow.
Shrug. THAT I don't see a problem with - having a wishing well or something. My partner and I have been living together for a few years - we really don't need or want blenders, toasters, and dishes - we HAVE those things.
It's pretty common nowadays, with cohabitation and whatnot, to have a wishing well for optional donations. I find it just as rude as a registry - since the whole point of a registry is to tell people what to buy you.
The thing about registries, though, is that most people don't have "P.S. Our registry is at WalMart!" printed on their wedding invitation. That, too, would be hideously tacky.
If someone calls up the bride or the maid of honor or the mother of the bride and asks "Hey what should I get for a present," then I totally see nothing wrong with requesting cash, or requesting a toaster oven, or having a registry list, or whatever else. It's just the presumptuousness of instructing people what they have to get as a present for you when you don't even really know if they're going to get you a present or not in the first place.
Plus, she's posting in Poor_Skills. Forbidding homemade or creatively thrifty gifts when she herself is trying to make ends meet seems kind of snarkable in and of itself. ;-)
Oh. One of my cousins did that- asked for cash gifts only. They weren't even in the poor house. My family didn't send anything. It's not like they even sent a card when I got married two years prior to them. My mom thought it was one of the most offensive ideas ever- asking for cash gifts only.
They should be grateful to receive anything, really. How tacky!
Actually, I've always found registries kind of tacky. I can't quite put my finger on it, but there's something about them that bugs me.
But they're so common now - I don't think I've been to a wedding in the last ten years (besides the gardening voucher one mentioned below) that didn't have one.
Granted, I have a wedding website, but that's not the same as putting "GIMME MONIES ONLY" on the invitation.
But again, I also think that registries aren't offensive, since most people want to give something that the bride and groom will like and use at showers, and a registry's a nicer way of doing that, IMO.
Registries aren't offensive, certainly - but putting the registry info on the invitation is also in the realm of tacky :) That's the kind of thing that SHOULD be on a wedding website.
Completely agreed. I'm so glad I'm not going to look back at my invites and go, "oh, look dear- we were registered at target. Remember the bullsye store?"
Registries are practical but the only way to let people know about them is either a wedding website or word of mouth. There is no polite way to troll for gifts.
It is even tacky to put the wedding registry on the shower information, but people do that regularly. The greed astounds me.
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I actually went to a wedding once where they put a request for money to pay for a honeymoon on their invitation. The thing that made it even more tacky was that after people went to the trouble of giving them money for a honeymoon they decided to use the cash to buy a used car (a Volkswagen Rabbit they found on the internet, no less) instead. Long story short... the car turned out to be a useless pile of shit (surprise!) that they couldn't get anyone else to buy... so they ended up with no honeymoon and piece of shit car.
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It's pretty common nowadays, with cohabitation and whatnot, to have a wishing well for optional donations. I find it just as rude as a registry - since the whole point of a registry is to tell people what to buy you.
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If someone calls up the bride or the maid of honor or the mother of the bride and asks "Hey what should I get for a present," then I totally see nothing wrong with requesting cash, or requesting a toaster oven, or having a registry list, or whatever else. It's just the presumptuousness of instructing people what they have to get as a present for you when you don't even really know if they're going to get you a present or not in the first place.
Plus, she's posting in Poor_Skills. Forbidding homemade or creatively thrifty gifts when she herself is trying to make ends meet seems kind of snarkable in and of itself. ;-)
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They should be grateful to receive anything, really. How tacky!
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But they're so common now - I don't think I've been to a wedding in the last ten years (besides the gardening voucher one mentioned below) that didn't have one.
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Granted, I have a wedding website, but that's not the same as putting "GIMME MONIES ONLY" on the invitation.
But again, I also think that registries aren't offensive, since most people want to give something that the bride and groom will like and use at showers, and a registry's a nicer way of doing that, IMO.
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It is even tacky to put the wedding registry on the shower information, but people do that regularly. The greed astounds me.
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