Oh. One of my cousins did that- asked for cash gifts only. They weren't even in the poor house. My family didn't send anything. It's not like they even sent a card when I got married two years prior to them. My mom thought it was one of the most offensive ideas ever- asking for cash gifts only.
They should be grateful to receive anything, really. How tacky!
Actually, I've always found registries kind of tacky. I can't quite put my finger on it, but there's something about them that bugs me.
But they're so common now - I don't think I've been to a wedding in the last ten years (besides the gardening voucher one mentioned below) that didn't have one.
I don't think they're that awful, so long as they are used as a suggestion list for people who don't know what to buy. It's when the bride/groom advertise the registry without being asked first, or are offended/disgusted when they receive something OMG!! NOT on the registry that I have a problem with it. That's just tacky.
"I can't quite put my finger on it, but there's something about them that bugs me."
I think it's honestly because people are pretty much commanding you, down to the brand, what to get them. And then people get pissy if you get them something NOT on their registry.
I'd rather have someone give me an envelope of something they can afford or something special.
Depends on how you use them, IMO. If you go out of your way to advertise where you're registered.. yes. But, if you mention it ONLY when someone asks, I don't see a problem with it. I don't really think of it as telling people what to buy you, but as offering them suggestions if they're stuck.. of course, one always has the option of giving something that's not on the registry, or cash, or not giving a gift at all. Personally I like shopping from registries, particularly if I don't know the couple all that well, as it avoids the headache of them ending up with five toasters or whatever.
In certain respects, they are tacky. But what was worse about the case with my cousin, was that he never kept in touch, acknowledged other weddings, etc, until is was his own.
They should be grateful to receive anything, really. How tacky!
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But they're so common now - I don't think I've been to a wedding in the last ten years (besides the gardening voucher one mentioned below) that didn't have one.
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I think it's honestly because people are pretty much commanding you, down to the brand, what to get them. And then people get pissy if you get them something NOT on their registry.
I'd rather have someone give me an envelope of something they can afford or something special.
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