어머니

[dedalusj]

ㅈ is jealous of me.

For 설날 (the Korean version of Lunar New Year) she invited me to the apartment she shares with ㅈ's older sister.  (Right now ㅈ's family is undergoing a lot of drama but none of it involves either me or her.)  I originally thought I was going to meet her father and four brothers but this did not happen because to do that "you have

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[suna_sprite]

That is so awesome that you have been welcomed and accepted into the family like that. A huge anxiety of mine is meeting Korean families. Heck, I get nervous meeting AMERICAN families enough as it is. But it must be a huge relief to have that small part overwith (other than the father). I hope ㅈ can come to understand this as a good thing.

[dedalusj]

Actually meeting Koreans is easy because if you do a few things to show respect--use two hands when you hand or receive something, bow deeply, speak Korean and avoid using their name--they will usually forgive you because they know that you don't know all the protocol. However I always feel like 손님 because neither I nor them were ever able to just relax. That was not the case this weekend. It was totally relaxing and...well, intimate. Everyone was free to be their true natural selves.

[pisica_habibi]

Holy wow. Seriously, this is all awesome on so many levels (and hey, it's nice to have a family in Korea!)

Why won't 언니 be there when you leave stuff there?

And hey, now they see you guys as a "serious" couple (well engaged) and with no rush to get married, they now have time to get used to having a 외국인(tm)in the family.

I already kinda assume her mom's assume (since she did, you know, produce 언니) but your post confirms it.

[dedalusj]

언니 will go with me but meeting the brother (and maybe the father too) will be a traditional "guy evening." This could be problematic since I only like fu-fu girly drinks and loathe 소주. I am pretty good at drinking very very slowly though and seeming to drink more than I have. But I know that I will likely be judged based upon how well I drink. Maybe the fact that they are worried about meeting me (because of language barrier) will make it equal. Also none of her brothers did well in school and none have gone to college. In a country that prides education so much, my background is a real feather in my cap. Who knows?

yeah, her mother is really awesome. Very individualistic. I see where ㅈ gets it from.

[pisica_habibi]

An older version of 언니 eh? At least you get an idea of what to expect in the future!