Can't tell what's going on!

[hazelline]

Hi everyone, this is kind of difficult to write since it's hard to concisely sum up everything that's going on! But I figured I'd try since I've read so much helpful advice on other people's posts.

Comments

[beganwithayes]

go for it. what's so scary about rejection? it's just a little "no".

[marblespire]

Well, speaking as someone who used to have self-esteem the size of a peanut... *wry smile* (And the OP sounds like a highschool- or college-age girl, so hers might be smaller! o_O)

Nonetheless, I agree with everybody here. You've just gotta go for it, if for no other reason than this: you'll discover (everyone does) that it hurts less than you thought it would. And that will give you the confidence to do it again--at which point you'll discover (everyone does) that it hurt less than it did last time. And that will give you the confidence to do it again, and again, and again--until you finally find the person who says Yes. And if that's not worth rejection--even a lot of it--then I don't know what is. =)

(Having said that, you might want to hold off on this particular guy. If your friends' reports are to be trusted, he's the kind of person who accidentally hurts people's feelings. And, for obvious reasons, that's not a good thing to get tangled up with. As I remind my dad whenever we go to a Chinese restaurant: just

[tail_fear]

You won't know if he's interested until you go for it.

As for what you've described above, I can see things going either way. It sounds like he's being a good friend. Until you get to know him better it can be hard to tell.

If you walk away from this now you'll never know what could have happened. What about the next time? You can't avoid situations like these forever.

[jenninhtown]

Rejection is something we all have to deal with at some point. If you keep saying things like "I'm not sure if I can handle the rejection" you're only talking yourself into it being a big dramatic thing. It doesn't have to be.

Just ask him what he thinks about the two of you going out on a date. If he says no, just smile and say "ok, that's cool. I was just curious, but I'm cool just being friends too." and leave it at that. Not everyone you like will like you back, just like you won't like everyone who likes you. It's not a reflection on you, just the way mutual chemistry works.

[stoli_hat]

It's you happiness, so I say go for it. Rejection is something that we all have to deal with. If you are rejected, and you might just not be, it will make it SO much easier next time.

rejection builds character

[tenbones]

It's 2008!..take charge of your life and go for it. If he rejects you there are a ton of other guys out there.