*deep breath*

[spastik_spiral]

Hi Everyone...
This is my first post here, although I have been watching the community for about 2 weeks now. My name is Nikki, I'm 20 years old, and live in Saco, ME- (for those of you who don't know, yes, ME is in the U.S.)

This is my situation...

Comments

[daniramdin]

You said it in your tags. You are being led on. The guy just got out of a serious relationship and he wants to play around. You're there and available.

[mylifesamovie]

From what you've written, it sounds like he wants someone to cuddle with, not to date or be serious with. I'd say staying away physically is a good idea. You don't want the complication of physicality if it isn't going to turn into anything (unless you want the friends with benefits type of situation).
Also, you've put yourself out there a lot already (texting him, both drunk and sober, and telling him how you feel), I think he should own up to it at this point if he wants this to move further.
Honestly, I'd go for someone else who would be interested in having the full relationship package.

[tail_fear]

If you want to have another relationship talk, you can, but after reading what you've written above I don't think that it'll make much of a difference. Keep your distance and work on being friends only, no cuddling. If he really wanted to be close to you he would have already bridged the distance you moved away. I know my boyfriend does this both physically and emotionally. Even if I just try to scoot away in bed I end up touching him again because he followed me over.

You said yourself that "seeing each other is not exclusive". If you are just friends you don't have to tell him anything above other or future relationships. Go out and have fun.

[gorgeousg]

RUN AWAY! This guy could possibly BE this really really evil, manipulative boyfriend I had some years ago (although his name wasn't Keith). No guy who's straightforwardly interested in a girl would fail to take her up on a kissing opportunity. Seriously, just get as far way as possible.

[stoli_hat]

I think he's confused about how he feels but deep down he knows he's not ready to have a relationship with you. I'd go a few weeks without seeing him. It's pretty obvious to me that even if you guys did start getting closer, he would hurt you down the road simply because he's not ready.

I know it might be hard, but I think you need a break from contact, maybe a month or so, just to give yourself a chance to really understand that you guys shouldn't be more than friends. If after that month you're cool with being friends, you can reach out to him again.