*deep breath*

[spastik_spiral]

Hi Everyone...
This is my first post here, although I have been watching the community for about 2 weeks now. My name is Nikki, I'm 20 years old, and live in Saco, ME- (for those of you who don't know, yes, ME is in the U.S.)

This is my situation...

Comments

[blueberryeyes17]

I'm in Maine too... and have had people ask me if it's in Canada. Glad I'm not the only one. ;)

Anyway, I agree with what others have said. If he were interested, your relationship probably would have progressed a little more quickly. He's told you directly a few times that he's not interested in a relationship, so I'd be very careful, or avoid him altogether, to keep from getting too invested and hurt.

[verygwen]

I'm thinking that you need to talk with him about this and how you're feeling. Show him this post if it's hard to talk about. It does sound like he's leading you on, or not really that into you and just doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

[eccentricitee]

people actually don't know that maine is in the us?

[ravishingangel]

Yeah, I find that incredibly hard to believe, too. Perhaps those who ask are being smartasses since Maine is "practically" in Canada (if someone is smart enough to know where Maine is geographically, I can't see them being so stupid as to think it's not part of our country). Sort of like "Baja, California? That's in Mexico, right? :P". Or "Tijuana? That's not Mexico!"

*shrug* I think it might be some joke or something that people not from Maine wouldn't understand.

[fremescence]

Sounds like he's enjoying the attention you're giving him being that he's single, doesn't want to let you down fully because you've been friends for so long, and probably doesn't want to be cornered into a straight no--though that's the vibe he's giving.

As one of the above posters said, when I pull back, my boyfriend moves forward to close the distance. This guy doesn't want to lead you on to THAT degree, but he's not exactly telling you to sleep on the couch either. I say distance yourself, find some things to do, meet some more potential suitors, and he will do the same. But keep sleeping in the same bed and cuddling and you will find it pre-etty hard to move on.

[craigisace]

I agree with most of the comments. Without meaning to sound harsh, it seems like he's just not that into you. Or into anybody at this stage (obv still has issues with ex, getting over her, etc. Not to mention the alaskan girl) but enjoys the reassurance of the contact with you. But seriously, ANY guy who was actually interested would have taken you up on the kiss offer, especially when you're hanging out in close proximity all the time (cuddling, sleeping together).

My advice here is to cut your losses, stop beating yourself up about it with the wondering and put this guy in the friend zone. I think that would help you get your head together about it and from what you've said, he'll be fine with being just friends.

Good luck!