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[darias_boots]

So far, I have already forgotten that I am now 23. It seems like a nice age to be though, especially since turning 23 seems to involve the receiving of a Dalek-orange hand blender, a set of porcelain measuring cups shaped like cute kitties, a massive boardgame and some nice shirts

Comments

[ultrapeach]

Are they the sort of person where... pointing out material facts (eg. how much drink they consume) would have any effect at all?

[darias_boots]

I'm not sure...I know their family is doing everything they can to help, so I guess what I want to do is take a supportive, fairly non-confrontational role. But I don't know whether to bring it up...surely that would be better than pretending nothing is wrong?

[darias_boots]

Not funny.

[chu_22]

"I care for you, and I see what you're doing to yourself. While I don't support it - that doesn't diminish in anyway how much I love and respect you as a person. You don't need alcohol to be worth while (or pick the reason that they drink, or say they drink.)"

Admit to them that you know that their is a problem, that you don't support the problem - but let them know that you love/care/will be friendly towards them either way.
chances are, that if their family is doing everything they can - the person will be beginning to feel isolated. Let them know that they're loved, but the problem behavior needs to be reduced/stopped.

[darias_boots]

Thanks, that's a big help

[anonemuse]

I think V has it right, not pussyfooting around that you know, but being there and being supportive is really important. But at the same time, people who don't think they have a problem, especially when it comes to alcohol is really, really difficult, because of the way they see alcohol

[anonemuse]

When I say not pussyfooting about that you know - I think that came out wrong. Being too confrontational in the circumstances could just lead to the problem becoming even more hidden, which is something nobody wants.