Monogamy is Incurable

[courtneydisney]

I think there's a lot of pressure in the kink world to be some flavor of poly, because that's what everyone else is doing, it's more enlightened, it broadens your horizons, only petty people have a problem with sharing or jealousy, etc.. If there's a couple at a munch or class, and in the course of introductions says, "My partner and I don't play/

Comments

[cuddlycthulhu]

Here here. Getting some "Ew, monogamy!" from the overly poly folk?

[courtneydisney]

Actually, it's the "I'm mono, but yanno, the kind of mono where it's ok if one or both of us indiscriminately fuck some 'strange' on the side. Yay for us monos!"

Wait, what?

[cuddlycthulhu]

...Well...I guess they could call it monogamy if they really wanted to. I mean, if they're only emotionally loving each other then I guess that works.

[ex_loren_q]

You're kidding? Poly isn't the one twue way?

If you're kinky, you're not vanilla. Monogamy describes the type of relationship you want/have, not your sexuality. Yeesh!

I don't think I'm more evolved because I happen to have a life partner and a lover. I may be busier, but certainly not more evolved.

And people are just dumb sometimes. Just because I may use the label "poly" doesn't mean I'm looking.

[courtneydisney]

"Just because I may use the label "poly" doesn't mean I'm looking."

Exactly, and just because I'm kinky, doesn't make me easy.

My line is, "Yes I do, but not with you."

[zansidhe]

I'm in the camp of no one twue way. If that's what works for you, then that's what works for you.

[bellaballanda]

I'm totally up for learning. Sometimes if you only play with one person you have to be careful that you don't hurt them. Doesn't mean you have to play with other people.. just means you've got to read and go to class etc to make sure you're safe... problem solved.

To each their own....

I'm just a slut *grin*