I'll get it done properly next time with a shopping delivery to the venue if possible, which should mean that eveyone can contribute food regardless of means of transport.
It was from the Cerridwen camp - Thorn had to use the word "rabbit" so that the continental Europeans would understand what she was talking about, and apparently some of the more (ahem) militant members of our community at the time took it upon themselves to explain At Length the faux pas that she'd perpetrated. Because, after all, Hares Are SACRED TO THE GODDESS while rabbits are only good for eating. :D
That would be good. I'm planning on doing afternoon tea parties on the occasional Sunday from now on, so you can come and visit us as well. I'm very excited about your birthday drinks - it will be my first night out without the baby.
I do miss seeing you and Spencer as much as I used to, because I think you're both very splendid and admirable people and I like the way you live your lives. I hope family life is still sitting well with all three of you ;)
It sometimes feels as though the world is divided into people who have children and people who don't want kids aroundI couldn't agree more. We're the only ones in our social group to have had a baby. Unfortunately not only are most of our friends child-free by choice, but they have little or no tolerance for children and in one case actively despise them. We've grown a lot closer to the very few in the group who do want a family one day, but our social group is otherwise falling to pieces. I feel like I'm bending over backwards to beg attention from the child-free nowadays in any form, and make enormous sacrifices so I can meet up with them "as usual" on their terms from time to time, yet aside from a few begrudging token gestures that happened at the start, there's been no offers of compromise. "It's you who had the baby, you deal with the problems; it's no concern of ours. And don't you dare talk about the baby even though it's 100% of your life right now. I can talk about my life though, that's fine." - it's (mostly) unsaid,
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I always assumed when one had a baby that one *chooses* to not see friends any more but in fact, at least in my case, it seems the reverse is true.
I'm feeling a bit that way as well. I'm quite surprised by some of the people who have made a big effort to stay in touch, as they aren't neccesarily the most keen on kids by any means, and this has involved a certain amount of discomfort on their part in some cases, which I really appreciate.
I think you must have some very good friends :-) You certainly do find out who are your real friends and who are fair weather friends when you start a family, that's for sure. I did expect a little more of my friends, especially as I've often made compromises as a result of their lifestyle changes in some cases, but I think I was naive. Those who've stuck by me I really do treasure though, like you say :-)
I think that the only people who understand the amount of effort involved in going out (or evenhaving friends round) are the ones who've been there themselves. Still, I've managed to get Kit to take milk froma bottle, and she's mostly feeding every 4hours now rather than every hour or two, so I feel a lot less tied down.
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missed you this weekend - I'll try and do an update/summary at some point.
no one killed anyone or was toooooo mad, and we all had enough to eat - so I am very grateful for the work you did last time on that one!
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I'm feeling a bit that way as well. I'm quite surprised by some of the people who have made a big effort to stay in touch, as they aren't neccesarily the most keen on kids by any means, and this has involved a certain amount of discomfort on their part in some cases, which I really appreciate.
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