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The story about the drug against lesbianism
Has been making the rounds. Much like the story about the reduction of clitori a few weeks back, it's about intersex people and has less to do with lesbianism than with intersexuality and one scientist being a confused ass. Well, she's not alone, I'm increasingly confused, too, and irritated at the level of conflation that's been going on here.
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Triggers and BDSM
I am sometimes profoundly uncomfortable with specific relationships dynamics within the BDSM scene, even though I am a domme and think that YKIOK is vital and part of The Rules. I never thought that it was particularly hard to grasp that people can be triggered by things that happen in BDSM, in fact, I'd find it kind of "Eh?" if I met someone who ( Read more... ) -
BDSM and fandom
Holy shit.
I like reading fanfics occasionally. It's fun, and relaxing, and steering clear of anything dear to me that ignorant idiots can get wrong (kink, LGBT characters, LGBT relationship, trans characters, non-conforming gender roles... ok, admittedly, I read pretty much only het genfic because that's the one thing that ignorant idiots can't ( Read more... ) -
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I find myself more religious than I used to be.
Specifically, I pray a lot more.
Usually, I pray to either wake up as a woman or not wake up at all.
It's against my religion which condemns despair and suicide and advocates trust in god, but I am so disgusted with myself and what I consider to be my profound wrongness that I just can't handle it any ( Read more... ) -
Not enough.
Whenever I see people talk about being queer or trans enough, what individual terms mean, etc., I want to go hide in a corner. It seems as though the only way to validate your experiences as a non-cis person is if you have impressive battle scars to show, and because I am shy and non-confrontative, I don't have many battle scars. The only ones I do ( Read more... ) -
Who died and made you queen?
My passport says I am a woman. My family treats me like a woman. My friends treat me like a woman. My students react to me as they would to a female rather than a male teacher.
Why am I supposed to be a woman?
I don't know. There seems to be an easy consensus that decrees my breasts and my vulva are female. They don't feel female to me. To me? My ( Read more... ) -
Homework Post: learning to read as a cisperson
In short: it is still too easy for me to fall into the trap of, "I loved it back when I read it and can't remember anything being wrong with it, therefore, it must be flawless"- regardless of when I read it and who I was back then. Having been on the other side of that conversation often enough I really ought to know better.
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Femininity
Repeat after me ( Read more... ) -
Gender and emotional restraint
During all the discussion on M/M and reading through reasons people have for liking M/M I find that some of those reasons I do understand. Emotional restraint can be incredibly attractive ( Read more... )
