This is brilliant and I could not agree more with every word that was said. A couple people I have met on LJ have truly become my close friends but we have known one another for a couple years now and talk nearly every day. I have met some though that have clung to me and have kind of freaked me out. One of my pet peeves is when people talk to me about “breaking news” that anyone who is a fan of the fandom already knows. Does that make sense? I know what I am trying to say but I do not know if it is coming out right. I am the kind of person who likes my space so I am not really fond of that.
Please tell me I am not one of those people who stalk your LJ. I am completely paranoid now.
I think I added that ETA two seconds before you replied. I don't mind people stalking =) It's constant invasion of my bubble that annoys me. Although that's never happened to me. The closest I came to having a stalker was Blanche forgetting to login in when replying to an entry of mine so it showed up as anonymous, LOL.
Clinginess is a such a huge turn off for me. I have a VERY big bubble so people who do that...*shudder* Er, do you mean like you don't like to talk about spoilers, or...? I love talking about "breaking news" and discussing what it might mean for the show/ship. One of my pet peeves are people who want my approval for everything :/ I really find that strange, because I'm thinking it shouldn't matter what *I* think. What do *you* think of it? I've never felt the need to have the approval of someone else, so I don't really get it....
It's just that someone of us have antisocial tendencies or are emotionally inept, and we scare easily. Oh, some of us so do scare easily. Like for your character trait post, my first involuntary thought was "Oh, God! She means me!!!"
People sometimes write me a lot of reviews + the odd PM in one go because they just discovered me, but it's always been nice and well within within my comfort zone.
I'm glad the thought was involuntary! Definitely wasn't you =) It's amazing just how many writers actually do scare easily O_O by anything. Makes me want to do a post on author insecurities and such...
Yes, I've always had a pleasant experience too ^^ I think it also depends on how much you offer up in personal posts. Most (by which I mean, pretty much all of them) of your entries are fic, and I think that might actually be helpful in dissuading the crazies. Good tactic ;)
Love for your icon!
ETA: Also, you somehow always tend to quote the lines in which I have typos. Heh, embarrassing *blush*
I'm fast becoming addicted to your various thoughts about fandom. Love reading them. Hey...you're my soulmate!
Heh.
I've been in fandoms for a long long time. I've met some really amazing people and, dare I say it, someone that I do call my "best friend". And possibly even gravitating towards something else - something that's more enduring and will probably last a good long time if I'mvery lucky.
But...there are the "others". The more you write and post, the more you tend to attract those with a modicum of intelligence. I sometimes mistake those people for the ones who are awesome. They seem normal at first but after a while, you discover the crazy.
I like to chat with people, exchange messages and whatnot. But all within my own personal boundaries. When someone begins to get close...I tend to cut and run in fear. And there's always the worry that when you open up to someone you think might become a friend, they'll take that and use it to crush you, heh.
I'm glad you're becoming addicted to my posts on fandom! If it's making you think, it means my plan is working >D
Lol.
On a less evil note...See, I've only been in fandom for less than half a year so I have zero experience with this :/ I didn't even know stuff like this existed until I read the article. But now I'm paranoid that it might happen, because like you, I run in fear. In the opposite direction. Hysterically. Arms flailing and everything.
Even in RL, I just told a friend of mine (whom I've known for 5 years), "you're too needy. We need a break," because she thought going a week without talking/seeing the other was too long. I'm pretty sure this means we have intimacy issues, lol. Most of my friends have already diagnosed me as 'commitmentphobe' and 'socially and emotionally awkward.' Hence the running in fear ;)
Ah, but you see, that's what I like about the internet sometimes. You can pick up friendships or drop them in your own time. If someone messages you or emails you or whatever, you don't have to pick up the phone or answer the door, you can just check in when it suits you.
I also have intimacy issues. They tend to manifest themselves in somewhat alarming ways on occasion, but I'm working on it, you know?
But I wouldn't worry about LJ people too much. It's its own little world here and you can easily get caught up in it (hence my LJ post the other day, heh). But unless someone is stalking you in RL, I reckon you'll be safe enough. Besides, you have some awesome people on your flist who would rush in to protect/defend you if you were getting pestered. I'm happy to flex my muscles if I feel it's warranted. Although said muscles are comfortably covered in about six inches of blubber...
Heeeeey yo, i dont have wireless, but i have been stalking my flist on my phone. so i appreciate you holding off your thoughts. but i'll be ready for them monday :)
I probably won't be able to post until later in the week. Got presentation and paper on Tuesday, then lab exam on Thursday. So probably next friday-ish. Unless I'm procrastinating, then expect it earlier, lol.
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Please tell me I am not one of those people who stalk your LJ. I am completely paranoid now.
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Clinginess is a such a huge turn off for me. I have a VERY big bubble so people who do that...*shudder* Er, do you mean like you don't like to talk about spoilers, or...? I love talking about "breaking news" and discussing what it might mean for the show/ship. One of my pet peeves are people who want my approval for everything :/ I really find that strange, because I'm thinking it shouldn't matter what *I* think. What do *you* think of it? I've never felt the need to have the approval of someone else, so I don't really get it....
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Oh, some of us so do scare easily. Like for your character trait post, my first involuntary thought was "Oh, God! She means me!!!"
People sometimes write me a lot of reviews + the odd PM in one go because they just discovered me, but it's always been nice and well within within my comfort zone.
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Yes, I've always had a pleasant experience too ^^ I think it also depends on how much you offer up in personal posts. Most (by which I mean, pretty much all of them) of your entries are fic, and I think that might actually be helpful in dissuading the crazies. Good tactic ;)
Love for your icon!
ETA: Also, you somehow always tend to quote the lines in which I have typos. Heh, embarrassing *blush*
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Heh.
I've been in fandoms for a long long time. I've met some really amazing people and, dare I say it, someone that I do call my "best friend". And possibly even gravitating towards something else - something that's more enduring and will probably last a good long time if I'mvery lucky.
But...there are the "others". The more you write and post, the more you tend to attract those with a modicum of intelligence. I sometimes mistake those people for the ones who are awesome. They seem normal at first but after a while, you discover the crazy.
I like to chat with people, exchange messages and whatnot. But all within my own personal boundaries. When someone begins to get close...I tend to cut and run in fear. And there's always the worry that when you open up to someone you think might become a friend, they'll take that and use it to crush you, heh.
Good entry. It's making me think. Damn you, heh.
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Lol.
On a less evil note...See, I've only been in fandom for less than half a year so I have zero experience with this :/ I didn't even know stuff like this existed until I read the article. But now I'm paranoid that it might happen, because like you, I run in fear. In the opposite direction. Hysterically. Arms flailing and everything.
Even in RL, I just told a friend of mine (whom I've known for 5 years), "you're too needy. We need a break," because she thought going a week without talking/seeing the other was too long. I'm pretty sure this means we have intimacy issues, lol. Most of my friends have already diagnosed me as 'commitmentphobe' and 'socially and emotionally awkward.' Hence the running in fear ;)
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I also have intimacy issues. They tend to manifest themselves in somewhat alarming ways on occasion, but I'm working on it, you know?
But I wouldn't worry about LJ people too much. It's its own little world here and you can easily get caught up in it (hence my LJ post the other day, heh). But unless someone is stalking you in RL, I reckon you'll be safe enough. Besides, you have some awesome people on your flist who would rush in to protect/defend you if you were getting pestered. I'm happy to flex my muscles if I feel it's warranted. Although said muscles are comfortably covered in about six inches of blubber...
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Yeah, I read that post of yours. All I could think was, "When fandom goes wrong... O_O" Lol! Bawww, thanks! ^^ That's sweet of you.
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I shall be back later with more coherent thoughts!
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