Can't win for losing.

[cadhla]

Monday, I walked to the store for some of the essential components of my continuing existence (IE, 'salad greens' and 'strawberries'). I was wearing my usual jeans, which fit just fine, thanks, and a tank top with broad enough straps to cover my bra (not all my tank tops fit into this category). So relatively relaxed, but still decent, attire

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[d_aulnoy]

Urgh. You have my most sincere sympathies, on both counts

[cadhla]

Most of why being removed from the list bothers me is, well...

I was on that list for over a decade, and I was on that list and fat for almost all of that time (since, if we're going strictly by BMI, I've been other than fat for less than two months). That means I have ten years of experience discussing dealing with fat issues, advising people on places to find comfy clothing, the best ways to handle a convention, looking good at any size, etc. Ten years. And all of this is, apparently, invalidated by a number.

It blows my mind. Completely. And it's the reason that acceptance movements run into issues -- when you keep forcing 'us vs. them', you lose a lot of people who would have been happy to be a part of 'us', but are now religated to 'them'.

[d_aulnoy]

Aside from the fact that the mods are juvenile asshats, is it worth appealing the decision, or starting an alternate grouping? It sounds like you've got a lot to offer advice-wise ... and, well, being that while I know jack about the other people on the list, I quite like *you*, and having a place for body-issue feedback is something that benefits everybody ... especially if you have a decade long connection to *those* people specifically

[otherdeb]

Solidarity has gone the way of the dodo, I'm afraid. You only have to listen to the remarks Rosie O'Donnell has been making about Star Jones' weight loss to realize that many still fat people just cannot deal with those who chose to not remain fat.

[branna]

*facepalm*

*hugs you*

*sigh* Why is it people sometimes think `support group' and `exclusive grade school club' are mutually interchangeable terms?

[cadhla]

I'm going with 'because people are socialized to be dumb', and just leave it at that.

Arrgh.

[alethea_eastrid]

I had a rather curmudgenly college friend who posited that most questions that start with "why" and remotely relate to people, in the individual or collective, can be answered with "because people are stupid."

I'm not nearly as pessimistic as he was...but he was right.

*HUGS*

[branna]

The fratboys are just a a lower life form. Nuff said.

[mayir]

Jeez. It's like Middle School all over again.

Many hugs, dear Seanan. But when the Judgment Day comes, and the Cool are rewarded, and the Not Cool are smited, you, my friend, will live happily ever after with first edition mint copies of every My Little Pony ever, while the Frat Boys shall have to drive stick on the Garden State Parkway in Friday rush hour traffic FOREVER.

[thornsilver]

WTF with that list? Just because you are no longer considered "fat", you don't have an opinion any more?