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[lynn82md]

Poll Bullying Prevention

PS-You don't have to share what you put down in the comments. That's optional.

Comments

[lynn82md]

While I think ignoring bullies isn't a good idea offline, it's a good idea to use for cyber bullies.

[cherry916]

Definitely. In fact that's something I always recommend for cyber bullies, because they feed off the attention you give them whether to defend yourself or answer them, ignoring them makes them realize what they are doing isn't working.

[lilenth]

Actually it can make them worse, I think it depends on the type of bully as to whether ignoring works at all.

[cherry916]

Well, there's no honest way to counter react kids who turn into bullies, because there are so many factors as to why kids may become bullies, but I think educating children early about differences and equality is something that may help to lessen kids bullying others for their differences.

[lynn82md]

Well, there's no honest way to counter react kids who turn into bullies, because there are so many factors as to why kids may become bullies,
True, though I just remembered something else I could've added to the poll and I can't re-vote to add "a reason not listed". Did diddly damn :/

What I could've added was where kids could also be taught how to manage anything negative and stressful that's going on in their life through something that postive. For example...while being bullied has become a thing of the past for me, I still deal with other issues. When I'm feeling depressed or pissed off about those issues, I deal with them by doing something I love like swimming.

[cherry916]

I think it can also be used to maybe rehabilitate bullies. Because I know a lot of bullies are angry themselves and lash out and pick on others to make themselves feel better or take out their aggression. Maybe if they transferred their anger and negativity into something more positive, like a hobby or what not it might help bullies better handle their emotions.

[lynn82md]

exactly

[mothwing]

Teaching children respect for themselves and others and what respectful behaviour looks like.

I also like programmes that focus on both bullies and victims of bullying alike rather than introducing self-defence classes for bullying victims only.

[lynn82md]

Teaching children respect for themselves and others and what respectful behaviour looks like.
I like that :)

I also like programmes that focus on both bullies and victims of bullying alike rather than introducing self-defence classes for bullying victims only.´
Me too, although they didn't have any programs like that when I was a kid (that is, self-defense classes aimed to prevent yourself from being bullied). Self-defense classes were majorily pointed out to help defend yourself if you were ever attacked by anyone like a robber.

I did self-defense, but I mostly did it as something for fun (I love me a good physical challange, though I don't get too hog wild like wanting to cliff jump) as well as a way to defend myself against people who would want to attack me (i.e robbers) and I like martial arts.

[alice_the_raven]

I think that's a really good format and takes the total situation into consideration. Modeling good behavior is really key.

[lynn82md]

like this girl stuck her fist in my face once so I bit it
I chuckled at that. I should've done that myself.

I was the same way. After dealing with bullies' bullshit for so long, my tolerance for it died. My breaking point had happened when a nasty rumor was going around school about me and I was so pissed off about it that I told the group of these tough girls that the person who spread it better find themselves a nice spot at the intensive care unit because that's where I would be sending that person if I caught them. By the next day, the rumor died and no one dared spread rumors about me after that.

I'm actually shocked I didn't get in trouble with that, but this was pre-Columbine. I imagine if I said shit like that afterwards, ´my ass would've gotten in trouble.

[freyjaw]

Surprise works especially well against stupid.

[jennybliss]

Something needs to be done to educate the people in charge, not just the students. My own son has been treated like he is the problem and not the victim many time, and I have been told that he needs to act more like the rest of the kids in his class and maybe they wouldn't pick on him. If the adults in there lives make it ok for them to bully then all the education in the world will not make them stop.

[lynn82md]

Something needs to be done to educate the people in charge, not just the students.
Agreed

If the adults in there lives make it ok for them to bully then all the education in the world will not make them stop.
Good point, especially considering that some adults have it in their head that they seem to get nipple pinchies if other people don't do or behave the same way as they do.

[alice_the_raven]

That's a great point. One of the terrible things I hear about in both school and the workplace is how the bully is protected by the system and the person being bullied is made out to be the one who caused the issue. Teachers and supervisors have a moral responsibility and need to have the courage to deal with the situations fairly.