It is clear to my wife and me that you are a much happier person now than when we met you. Hardly surprising given the events of when we all met. But, the difference is not all internal to you. It radiates out through your life. So, while I'm sad you had to go through all that, I'm happy we got to see this happier phase of your life.
My X-husband asked me to move in with him because he didn't want me living in the kind of dump I could afford on my own in Philly. I married him partially because he made a good roommate. It was a mistake. In two years, I was gone.
It's sick that we have to move around for work so therefore we don't have circles of friends who can share rent. It also sucks that someone with a degree from a great university can't make enough to support herself.
I swear most people get married for monetary reasons. Not gold-digging, per se, but just because it's so difficult to make ends meet without a second income.
I swear most people get married for monetary reasons. Not gold-digging, per se, but just because it's so difficult to make ends meet without a second income.
True dat. I tend to think the same thing. Especially up here in the Northeast, where rents and real estate prices are through the roof.
I really feel sorry for the current crop of graduates, who seem to have more debt and worse job prospects than our generation did graduating during the crap economy that was the mid-80s.
Oh, his insurance covered counseling, I think at least ten sessions? But their phone maze was truly daunting. And I wasn't going to go through it only to be told that I wasn't the primary on the insurance and to call back. So I set that as a test, if you really want to save this marriage, YOU have to navigate the insurance gatekeepers.
I think there was also an element of "avoiding conflict" too. Therapy would have brought up a bunch of stuff that he probably wanted to avoid thinking about. Hell, our first sessions brought up a bunch of stuff that *I* wanted to avoid thinking about.
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But the first year or so after I left? I went through some horrible, horrible guilt.
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But, the difference is not all internal to you. It radiates out through your life.
So, while I'm sad you had to go through all that, I'm happy we got to see this happier phase of your life.
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My X-husband asked me to move in with him because he didn't want me living in the kind of dump I could afford on my own in Philly. I married him partially because he made a good roommate. It was a mistake. In two years, I was gone.
It's sick that we have to move around for work so therefore we don't have circles of friends who can share rent. It also sucks that someone with a degree from a great university can't make enough to support herself.
I swear most people get married for monetary reasons. Not gold-digging, per se, but just because it's so difficult to make ends meet without a second income.
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True dat. I tend to think the same thing. Especially up here in the Northeast, where rents and real estate prices are through the roof.
I really feel sorry for the current crop of graduates, who seem to have more debt and worse job prospects than our generation did graduating during the crap economy that was the mid-80s.
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I think there was also an element of "avoiding conflict" too. Therapy would have brought up a bunch of stuff that he probably wanted to avoid thinking about. Hell, our first sessions brought up a bunch of stuff that *I* wanted to avoid thinking about.
Therapy is NOT for wimps.
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