Now is the Winter of my Discontent - Moar introspection

[brickhousewench]

It seems that I am picking at scabs this winter. First my relationship with my parents, and the writing about FanFiction reminded me how Wolverine broke up my marriage. It’s been almost 10 years since I left, so I suppose this is all ancient history.

Comments

[ravena_kade]

Sadly, I find January a common time for people to be chewing on the past.

[brickhousewench]

Every year. Trapped in the house and inside my own head.

[ravena_kade]

Yeah. Today is nice, so I am escaping. Need to renew my MFA membership.

[brickhousewench]

Oooh, have fun! I need to get back before that Aphrodite exhibit closes.

[guy_todd]

Gah. I *never* snooped my ex-wife's stuff, though I later discovered she had been snooping my (innocuous) emails for a long time. If I had, I might have had some warning of what was to come. :(
And FWIW, my internal dialogue is also ceaseless, though at least sometimes amusing. {{hugs}}

[brickhousewench]

The two snooping incidents were really what killed things for me. Clearly trust was an issue for both of us.

And if your internal dialog is even half as amusing as your external dialog? Inside your head must be a fun place. ;-)

[guy_todd]

Sometimes happy, sometimes dismal. I try not to get lost in the swamps. ;-)

[brickhousewench]

As long as you can avoid the Rodents of Unusual Size you should be good!

[malterre]

Well, I can only see the post-marriage results and there was a HUGE change when the wasband became was. I always felt like he had to have all the attention in the room and has some really big "human social interaction" gaps. I know you know this but you seem MUCH happier without him. Thank you for sharing your insights, I admit I was curious.

[brickhousewench]

Yep, he was needy, still is. Very much a "dog" to my "cat" personality. Wants to be part of a pack, wants to be by your side all the time. Whereas I'm totally fine being alone, and come out when I feel like socializing.

I am much happier now, and I hope he is too. I just didn't see things improving. And unlike my mother, I wasn't willing to spend 50 years in a bad marriage.

And I'm always curious about other people's lives too...

[kass_rants]

I never knew the Wasband (God, I love that eponym!) so it's hard to imagine you putting up with such a person. But damn... I woulda flayed him alive for breaking into my stuff. How did you manage to live with him for two more years?

I think I told you my story which has some startlingly similar points to yours. In other words, I totally empathize.

I think I do all my introspection in the fall. But my birthday is in the fall and I think that has a lot to do with it for me.

[brickhousewench]

How did you manage to live with him for two more years?

I was making $13K a year working at Barnes and Nobles. I couldn't afford to leave. So I very deliberately found a job where I could make enough to support myself (I clearly couldn't go back to teaching), got trained for it, and went to work as a technical writer.

And actually, I know very little about your wasband. We'll have to plan a vistit sometime and have a hen fest.

[kass_rants]

Not much to tell. We were only together for two years. But we'll get together and cluck sometime for sure.

[pallid_regina]

Wow, thank you for sharing! For those of us not around at that time, this is good background! And good on'ya for getting out, sounds like!

[brickhousewench]

With the exception of Holly, I don't think anyone on here ever met the Wasband. This is ancient history!