Re: MeditationbranwynNovember 2 2010, 21:39:24 UTC
*hmms* I have considered this, and once I got used to it (right now doing nothing drives me crazy), it would probably help me relax. But - it would take up some time that's already allotted to doing something else... which would reduce my effective number of useful hours in a day, which would make my general "time crunch" issues worse... which would increase my stress.
Would I come out even? I dunno. I feel like this isn't the first step...
Step 1: "Change some shit in my life so that I actually have some free time."
Step 2: "Use some of that new-found free time to meditate."
I realize it's a conundrum of sorts. However, I'm not cool with just being more relaxed about getting less done - that won't cut it for me.
Anyways, thanks for the suggestion, it is a good one.
Re: MeditationfootpadNovember 3 2010, 00:08:32 UTC
I dunno. I mean... how many hours in the day would you need to do everything you want? And if you had that many hours, what would stop you taking on still more?
I don't know at all; but from here I get the impression that your haste is driven not from the pressure of things to do, but from a drivenness that's wound up like a spring inside you, which nothing will relieve but a marked change of outlook.
Re: MeditationbranwynNovember 4 2010, 20:09:31 UTC
You're right, of course... and I know that. I also know that I need to make this work for me... perhaps it's the chicken-and-egg debate again. Anyways, food for thought. I have "scheduled" some relaxation time with a friend this weekend; if I'm alone I don't trust that I will actually do any relaxing, but with a friend over - I know it's a lot more likely.
Anyways, thanks very much for your thoughts, they are, as usual, insightful and intelligent, and worthy of consideration.
Its not just you. Finding balance in life if always difficult. You need to decide what is the minimum that must be done, and be honest. You also need to decide what is truly important to you.
I'll use myself as an example. I have no social life to speak of. (Though, that is slowly changing.) I can see some dust that has accumulated in the corners of the room I am in. (Though, no one else ever seems to notice it.) My meals are very simple, and plain. (Nothing I make for myself takes longer than 40 minutes to cook.) I am on a very demanding, and tough training schedule. I usually work 6 days a week
I decided my training was the most important thing to me. The simplicity of my meals, allowing some dust to accumulate, and having an almost non-existent social life are all sacrifices I felt were necessary for my training.
However, I am also taking a long view of these things. Eventually, my training needs will change, and my priorities will shift. When that time comes, I will devote my time differently.
"Prioritization" has long been the bane of my existence. I understand the need for it, but I guess the problem I face is that there are a lot of things that I consider important, and to pick one or even a few to the exclusion of the others just isn't a viable option to me. I really don't have any interest in specialization - I want a broad level of competence in many areas. It's just how my brain works. Anything that I do for too long I get extremely bored of
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In response to the first paragraph I handled the work/chores/exercise/socialize/sleep thing with no problems for a number of years till I let a return to college and a woman get in the way. :P
It can be done, hard part is getting back into the habit, I'm back at square one myself, just takes persistence. Once you make it a habit it its cake.
As for the job thing, find something you like. A job you enjoy will make life much easier for you. I pulled an Office Space and went from a dead end desk job to a gig working mostly outdoors in the oil industry. Its hard work, I often just want to nap when I get home. Its dangerous work, we stress safety and get monthly reports on injuries and deaths in the company (deaths are rare, we rarely have osha recordables ourselves). The potential downsides go on. But at the end of the day I can step back from my work, and say "I repaired this" or "I achieved that".
Being able to walk away from each day with a feeling of accomplishment, however minor, makes a big difference to ones mental state.
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Would I come out even? I dunno. I feel like this isn't the first step...
Step 1: "Change some shit in my life so that I actually have some free time."
Step 2: "Use some of that new-found free time to meditate."
I realize it's a conundrum of sorts. However, I'm not cool with just being more relaxed about getting less done - that won't cut it for me.
Anyways, thanks for the suggestion, it is a good one.
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I don't know at all; but from here I get the impression that your haste is driven not from the pressure of things to do, but from a drivenness that's wound up like a spring inside you, which nothing will relieve but a marked change of outlook.
Which of course you may not want.
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Anyways, thanks very much for your thoughts, they are, as usual, insightful and intelligent, and worthy of consideration.
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I'll use myself as an example. I have no social life to speak of. (Though, that is slowly changing.) I can see some dust that has accumulated in the corners of the room I am in. (Though, no one else ever seems to notice it.) My meals are very simple, and plain. (Nothing I make for myself takes longer than 40 minutes to cook.) I am on a very demanding, and tough training schedule. I usually work 6 days a week
I decided my training was the most important thing to me. The simplicity of my meals, allowing some dust to accumulate, and having an almost non-existent social life are all sacrifices I felt were necessary for my training.
However, I am also taking a long view of these things. Eventually, my training needs will change, and my priorities will shift. When that time comes, I will devote my time differently.
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It can be done, hard part is getting back into the habit, I'm back at square one myself, just takes persistence. Once you make it a habit it its cake.
As for the job thing, find something you like. A job you enjoy will make life much easier for you. I pulled an Office Space and went from a dead end desk job to a gig working mostly outdoors in the oil industry. Its hard work, I often just want to nap when I get home. Its dangerous work, we stress safety and get monthly reports on injuries and deaths in the company (deaths are rare, we rarely have osha recordables ourselves). The potential downsides go on. But at the end of the day I can step back from my work, and say "I repaired this" or "I achieved that".
Being able to walk away from each day with a feeling of accomplishment, however minor, makes a big difference to ones mental state.
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