In a relationship, if there is one person who works outside the home and one who is a stay at home parent, does the person who works outside the home have the right to veto/cut off the spending of the stay at home parent?
If it's detrimental to the family overall (say, it cuts into the money set aside for rent, bills, and food), I'd say yes. If it's just because the other person wants to be a dick, no.
It depends, to a point. Not that I believe a spouse/partner should have to "earn their keep" or anything, but if the spending is excessive, doesn't contribute to the house (like just having to have those expensive shoes, even though the bills aren't paid yet) etc, I can see it being talked about, at least.
IMO, however, unless the kids are almost never home (older teens) AND the SAH parent isn't doing anything at all around the house, the money should be fairly spent, and fairly shared.
I think whoever does the budget and pays the bills has that authority, be it the stay at home parent or the parent who works. I am the at home parent, and DH does the bills. He has many times said to me "stop spending, or you only have X$ at the grocery store" and it's not because he's the man, or because it's "his money" it's because he knows.
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IMO, however, unless the kids are almost never home (older teens) AND the SAH parent isn't doing anything at all around the house, the money should be fairly spent, and fairly shared.
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Yeah sure, he goes to work, but because he works nights and sleeps in the day, he's not able to get to the grocery store or anything like that.
IDK, it's kind of funny that HE works, yet he asks me if he can go buy a book or something.
(To clarify, we don't have a huge income so we usually just have enough to cover what we need with a few treats here and there).
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