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[bloodrebel333]

Landlord literally said to me that "things would get a lot easier for me" if I "wore nice pantyhose". 'Or else' was implied, he couldn't have shouted 'for him' louder than it was with him just looking at me like that. And I, I am an idiot, because I panicked, because I considered, because I lost control, because I ruined myself, because I cried and

Comments

[sanura]

Hugs. Please be careful. I'm here from copperbadge and I wish I could do something. I have one friend in Den Bosch who lives with his parents, but he might know someone to ask. He certainly knows more than I do. I've linked him to this post.

[bloodrebel333]

Thank you very much! Just hearing from people makes me feel less alone at this point. Thank you for linking and taking the time to reply.

[guardantares]

Online hugs, I can do. *hugs* That man is awful and the things he does do NOT reflect on you. Remember that, OK?

I included some advice for security in response to another comment. Here's some more. Keep heavy things near your bed and where you work. If you have a cellphone keep it nearby at all times since he's already shown he's capable of cutting off phone and internet whenever he pleases.

If you do get attacked, DO NOT HOLD BACK. Smash something over his head or hit him as hard as you can. Good points of attack are the nose, the voice box, and the groin. If your hands are free, cup them and clap them down hard over his ears. Pepper spray and baseball bats are good, but if they're not at hand having some good self-defense moves is very valuable.

I really really hope that you never need that advice. *hugs* Good luck.

[bloodrebel333]

Thank you very very much. I hadn't thought I'd ever need to keep heavy things near my bed/desk, but in this case - well, absolutely. I think some of my lamps will do until I can get some hockeysticks or something. Does the clapping hands down over his ears thing really work? If so, that might be my best option, plus groin attacks.

[guardantares]

The hands-over-ears thing has to so with air pressure and the very delicate organs inside your ears so I feel that physics are sound so long as you remember to cup your hands and move fast.

[bloodrebel333]

Will do, thanks!

[darkgoldenrod]

hey, voor hoeveel wil je ongeveer huren max, dan informeer ik eens wat rond! persé in DB of is U ook okay?

[bloodrebel333]

Dankjewel! 500 ongeveer (of 700 als met lief kan), liefst wel in DB maar anders is U ook een optie...

[windlion]

Also here from http://copperbadge.dreamwidth.org/ - I am so sorry you got saddled with such a creeper! You definitely deserve some virtual hugs - and know that it's not your fault. Just try to watch your back until you can find a better place ASAP

[bloodrebel333]

It only has tracks at the beginning and at the end- I think he made the door himself. I'll try some tripwire and hope I don't trip over it myself. :)

I'll try to shout. I'll keep deodorant near my bed, too - pepperspray is illegal, but I don't think he'll enjoy deodorant in his eyes, either. And - I'm afraid I'll do the hands-over-ear-thing wrong, but I'll try, at least. If it doesn't work I can always bite, scratch, kick et cetera.

Thank you very much for the tips and the caring.

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[flutteringazure]

Eh, volgens mij is de eerste helft van mijn comment door LJ tegengehouden. Beetje jammer, daar stonden een paar URLs naar (gratis) juridische adviesbureau's in. Ik heb ze je gemaild op het e-mail adres in je blog! Hopelijk heb je de e-mail wel goed gekregen :) Sterkte in ieder geval!

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