Acceptance

[blackorchid1]

Even I have some things that I carry so much shame about that I don't talk about it. Even me, with the totally open policy in every other respect. Only those who are the very closest to me ever learn about this bit of mishugas (craziness). Usually they offer to try to help me fix the problem

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[loved_by_2]

I think it's worth pointing something out. It's probably obvious, but then when has that ever stopped me from pointing out the obvious. :)

In my mind "acceptance" doesn't just mean ignoring this bit of mishugas. It means at least trying to listen to the details, understand the circumstances and then agree (both internally and externally) that it's not going to cause a problem. I believe that's what we did on the phone the other night. We didn't just listen to you and then say, "oh, OK... that's fine." I think you'll agree that we asked a lot of questions (not all of them easy), tried to process your answers and in the end came to an understanding together (the three of us) of just how this fits into our relationship.

And as we said at the end of the call (and as the emails the next morning reiterated) nothing had changed. Well, perhaps things got a little better. That's all. :)

Hugs,
A

[yummy64]

I'm so happy for you! This relationship sounds like it is really good for you.

Your words in this post struck a nerve - what you said hits close to home. And I'm left with the thought "if others can accept me why can't I?" Hmmmm... this is something good for me to think on. So thanks!