Comments | belenen: feeling undesirable/unimportant due to lack of friends (except odd squad) & lack of group connection

belenen

feeling undesirable/unimportant due to lack of friends (except odd squad) & lack of group connection

Jan 29, 2016 18:59

icon: "tenebrous (a shadowy orange-light photo of my face, looking down, with an achingly sad expression)"
( a whole lot of the same old pain - and complaints despite my blessings )

connections, gathers, pain, fear / insecurity, friendship

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fayriekisses January 30 2016, 04:24:35 UTC

I feel like the older I get the harder it is to make new friends and maintain a solid connection with my current friends. They seem to be so preoccupied with their relationships and other life responsibilities that I no longer feel like I am as important as I use to be. This bothers me a great deal.

I occasionally search for Meet-ups online and have found a few I want to go to with the intent to meet new people, but I haven't found the courage yet. Being shy has always been a factor for me when making new friends.

belenen February 1 2016, 20:42:46 UTC

*deep sigh* I feel ya. If we lived close we could go together! having someone to go with always makes it so much easier for me.

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belenen February 1 2016, 20:43:05 UTC

thanks lovely <3

webgirluk January 31 2016, 18:15:42 UTC

I relate very much to this entry and experience similar feelings. Having a social web with meaningful interactions and different combinations of said interactions is very important to me, also. From my perspective looking in, you appear to have the friendships in person and social gatherings I could only dream of but I know as well, it's about we feel about it for ourselves and our personal needs. I'd love an "odd squad" group of friends (love the nickname) and I'm not sure if I really have any friend who I could rely on to definitely come to an important event in my life, although I think one would value the connection and importance of it and try. Another might but hard to tell when there haven't been any events to put it to the test. As you mentioned, I think distance makes it harder at times. I would have the social opportunities if my friends online all lived in my area. I too cry a lot about the situation and grieve for the people I'll probably never know even exist in this world, if many of them even do. I often find with all ( ... )

belenen February 1 2016, 20:45:39 UTC

*offers hugs* I feel you so much on that. Why are all the great people so damn scattered across the globe?? I also feel too different to easily find people. If only we could all teleport.

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belenen February 4 2016, 04:23:17 UTC

thank you friend <3

soundofsunlight February 2 2016, 11:40:10 UTC

Something similar happened to me some years ago. For a short time I had half a dozen local friends; we weren't very close, but we would get together on a regular basis. They seemed to like me, and seemed to like coming to the various social events, but after a while they just stopped coming. I have no idea why; nothing had changed. If it was just a few individuals...but it was nearly all of them. And I know at least some of them kept in touch with each other, so it was apparently just me they weren't interested in any more. For a while I kept trying but nothing I did made a difference, and it was upsetting me more than I could deal with. Eventually I stopped trying, and stopped considering them friends, because they weren't any more. I never understood what happened, though ( ... )

belenen February 4 2016, 04:26:16 UTC

Thank you for sharing your story <3 I feel you. And I am pretty much always up for hearing a story in response to something I share, so you know ;-)

Thank you, the energy work on my behalf means the absolute WORLD to me.