non-consensual expectations in relationships are not okay - ASK FIRST. Friendships, family, romance!

[belenen]

Do not assume that "everyone knows" how to be kind, or how to show love. NO. That assumes one right way for all people. Some people believe giving space is the kindest thing to do, but for other people that can feel like abandonment. Some people believe that talking it out immediately is the most loving act, whereas for people who need silence in

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[hardigrin]

Oh yes yes yes yes yes yes.

I love the examples especially, because I've run up against both sides of them often, and each person was always surprised that "everybody" didn't feel the way they did.

[meri_sielu]

I applaud this post! Very well written. <3

[adi_stroyer]

I love this post! I never thought to call it non-consensual expectations but that's just what it is. I regularly say I hate expectations but I don't, I hate expectations I haven't agreed to!