conflict is a kind of intimacy: be it bratty, unresolved, or constructive, it's not enough by itself

[belenen]

All conflict is intimacy. It is a genuine, exposing kind of interaction. This is why people say that hate and love are two sides of the same coin, and the trope of falling in love with the antagonist exists. This is why if you're constantly in disagreements with someone (like a coworker or classmate), you may feel closer to them than to strangers,

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[notquiteright]

I never thought about conflict causing intimacy but I can see how it's been true in my life. Friends who I eventually "had a fight with" - if we got past it we were closer.

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[belenen]

*nods* my closest relationships have had the BIGGEST conflicts.

[twofootsmall]

Wow. Just...wow.

I need to absorb what I understand of this then return to it later. Thank you.

[belenen]

<3 you are welcome, I'm glad it spoke to you.

[classical_wolf]

Loved reading about this - thank you :)

[belenen]

welks ;-)

[anonymous]

This filled in some gaps in my understanding of conflicts and intimacy. Also thanks for the link expanding on your intimacy practice. Really helpful. All of it.

-Lisa (aka chilly... LJ won't let me sign in at the moment)

[belenen]

cool! glad it gave some food for thought ;-)

[belenen]

<3 welks!