conflict is a kind of intimacy: be it bratty, unresolved, or constructive, it's not enough by itself

[belenen]

All conflict is intimacy. It is a genuine, exposing kind of interaction. This is why people say that hate and love are two sides of the same coin, and the trope of falling in love with the antagonist exists. This is why if you're constantly in disagreements with someone (like a coworker or classmate), you may feel closer to them than to strangers,

Comments

[ellettra]

Very interesting and insightful post!

[belenen]

thanks!

[meri_sielu]

So insightful, I never thought of conflict as being a kind of intimacy but you're right! I can see how interconnected they are. Lots to think about here, Thankyou. :)

[belenen]

you're most welcome!

[ohhhlife]

This is so interesting! I have a history of being with people who fight with me or pick on me, but i NEVER respond in kind. I also don't know if i've ever -really- felt close to anyone. Interesting to think about it from this perspective!

[belenen]

glad it gave you some food for thought!

[kehlen]

This is so spot on, but for some reason I have never heard about conflicts from this viewpoint. Thank you for pointing it out.

[belenen]

you're most welcome :)

I used this

[raidingparty]

Showed to my partner. We argue playfully almost every day, but we still need some work on managing stuff when we're actually in conflict.

In related news, the same Japanese phrase, translated "the one you face", works for both "dance partner" and "opponent".