First off, I really hope you're not feeling the need to berate yourself over your body (even though you're not explicitly saying that you do, I wonder). Because you, sir, have an incredibly hot body and are the handsomest of devils.
You will probably never be built like a truck. I will never be thin. We can both exert subtle changes on our bodies to produce changes that please us and that improve our health. I love lifting weights, cross country skiing, bicycling--but I know that there's a limit to what that will do. I'm happy with my body (ok, except for the 20 lb that writing my dissertation added to my belly) and I feel that I'm doing about all that I should to keep it functioning and woofy.
Wow, thank you! I think you are right. Balance is a part of the equation and trying to learn that there's also a purpose behind getting healthy, not just working out for it's own sake.
This is exactly why I don't believe in "muscle bears". What a silly concept.
What does it GET you? Perhaps more attention from some people, but potentially less from others that liked you the way you were.
I have decided to live my life on my own terms. I know that I can be fat, healthy AND happy all at the same time. I refuse to try to mold myself to someone else's ideal.
Dude, I'm SO glad to hear that. I've known a lot of bigger guys that don't really like themselves much and sometimes it's hard to deal with. If THEY are sensitive about their looks, then it makes you feel like you gotta walk on eggshells sometimes.
What you say it's true too...that sometimes in chasing something we'd want, we lose sight of what we have. I should really be more grateful. :-)
I was going to say something along these lines as well. I joke that I'm an equal-opportunity slut, but really it's a matter that a hot man is so much more than just his build.
And I believe part of what makes a man hot is his ability to know his own worth and yet keep his ego in balance. One's own potential is as much mental as physical, and each can require development.
I remember thinking that putting on weight or muscle would solve all of my self-image issues.
In the end, it solved SOME of them. I have more muscle; I'm *never* going to look like some "built" guys. But I also discovered that some people have too many muscles. I also have more weight, and I think I'm happier as a result ... but lately, I weigh too much and feel literally weighed down by it. So there's a happy medium I'm going back towards. It's a medium that's mostly about how I feel, though, not how I look.
I've hated my body and loved my body when it was basically the SAME body--you know, within the same MONTH.
I love furry men and I'm never going to be as furry as some of them. But I'm much more at home in my skin than I used to be.
So, yeah ... valuing myself was the most important piece of it.
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You will probably never be built like a truck. I will never be thin. We can both exert subtle changes on our bodies to produce changes that please us and that improve our health. I love lifting weights, cross country skiing, bicycling--but I know that there's a limit to what that will do. I'm happy with my body (ok, except for the 20 lb that writing my dissertation added to my belly) and I feel that I'm doing about all that I should to keep it functioning and woofy.
It's all about balance.
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Now, when are we going on a hike?
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Thanks a lot for the compliment. I think you are very hot as well, then and now. :-)
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What does it GET you? Perhaps more attention from some people, but potentially less from others that liked you the way you were.
I have decided to live my life on my own terms. I know that I can be fat, healthy AND happy all at the same time. I refuse to try to mold myself to someone else's ideal.
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What you say it's true too...that sometimes in chasing something we'd want, we lose sight of what we have. I should really be more grateful. :-)
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And I believe part of what makes a man hot is his ability to know his own worth and yet keep his ego in balance. One's own potential is as much mental as physical, and each can require development.
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In the end, it solved SOME of them. I have more muscle; I'm *never* going to look like some "built" guys. But I also discovered that some people have too many muscles. I also have more weight, and I think I'm happier as a result ... but lately, I weigh too much and feel literally weighed down by it. So there's a happy medium I'm going back towards. It's a medium that's mostly about how I feel, though, not how I look.
I've hated my body and loved my body when it was basically the SAME body--you know, within the same MONTH.
I love furry men and I'm never going to be as furry as some of them. But I'm much more at home in my skin than I used to be.
So, yeah ... valuing myself was the most important piece of it.
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