just to be clear

[babycatcher33]

My three living children have my time and attention for 363 days a year.  I don't think it's unreasonable to take two days a year to remember Abby.  Two days is not wallowing in my grief.  It's not unnatural or unhealthy to give in to my grief.

I wish I could totally remove myself from my life and spend these next two days exactly the way I want

Comments

[birthingway]

Nope, not wallowing at all. Not even a little bit.

Lots and lots of love to you, J. I can imagine the urge to run away and camp at the cemetary is very strong.

[babycatcher33]

yup.

Tent in hand....

[lemmings_world]

I wonder how I'll spend Violette's first angelversary, and I don't know yet. All I know is that I'll turn off the phone and just let whatever emotions come have their turn.

Peace to you and your family.

[lululily]

Oh Janice... I'm crying for your sweet baby girl right now. I wish life could be paused right now, to give you the time to grieve and remember Abby, to hold Jack and cry with him. You are foremost in my thoughts today.

[queenof911]

your not setting yourself clear because someone gave you a hard time about grieving are you? That would be awful. You suffered a horrible thing, losing a child I could never imagine what that is like. You do what you need to to grieve for your child and you take however much time you need. **hugs for abby's day**

[tigrrgrr]

I was writing up a lease this morning and as I wrote the date I thought to myself...did I have an appointment... Then it hit me.

I'll be lighting my remembrance candle today for Miss Abby and tonight pink cupcakes like I do every year.

Don't let the shoulds get you down sweetie. The only should you have these next two days is to keep breathing in and out.

I love you.