Comments | babycatcher33: dirty deeds done

babycatcher33

dirty deeds done

Jun 19, 2006 13:14

The newspaper came out today with Abby's obituary, memorial, and a thank you in it. I bought two copies of the paper. Very hard to see it all in print but I'm glad it's out there for everyone to see.

(obituary)
ABBY ANGEL McCASKILL

Born at home on June 9, 2006 at 11:45 pm, and passed into the arms of Jesus the morning of June 10, 2006. Abby ( Read more... )

abby, funeral, newspaper, gratitude, grief

Comments 7

birthingway June 19 2006, 19:53:31 UTC

I hope you can rest now, J. You deserve to take care of yourself, and to be taken care of.

peridotz June 19 2006, 21:19:20 UTC

I really think focusing on enjoying the family you still have would be a great way to memorialize Abby, she wants a happy family down here.

babycatcher33 June 19 2006, 22:04:11 UTC

I will always be grateful for the children I still have but that doesn't mean I shouldn't grieve for the child I've lost. It's been 10 days, ONLY TEN DAYS since Abby was born and died! There is no happy family here right now - our whole family is grieving and missing Abby. Julia hugs me and tells me she misses Abby too. Kim bought a picture frame and put a picture of Abby, herself, and Julia in it for me.

My children aren't being ignored or unappreciated in my grief. If Abby had lived, I would be completely absorbed in life with a newborn - changing diapers, nursing around the clock etc. My daughters have more of my love and attention now than they would have had if Abby had lived.

At Abby's funeral, our pastor told us that every memory we make with Kim and Julia, every kiss and hug we give them, we will be doing those things with Abby too. The love we have for our children will always include Abby even though she isn't physically present.

lolacat June 25 2006, 02:22:46 UTC

Cherish your grief. My thoughts have been with you all week.

tracied June 19 2006, 22:58:34 UTC

Oh hun, this is so hard for you all, and I know that these things like running errands, feeling your milk dry up, all make the sting worse, but you are so very strong. Even in your weakness and vulnerability, and openness in allowing us to witness this private pain. I pray for you and your girls and Jack constantly that the Lord will lift you up and sustain you, and that the brokenness will be knit back together. But in that knitting, a very big part of those threads will be the pieces of Abby and the brief time you had with her. We may never know why or how, but HE does, and HE is weeping with you. But close your eyes my friend and let that love and grace wash over you, let HIM carry your weight.

Janice, I am amazed, daily at how strong you, Jack and your girls are through all of this, and just how deeply you are clinging to each other.

babycatcher33 June 20 2006, 15:42:11 UTC

I've read that the death of a child can ruin a marriage, but Jack and I have drawn even closer to each other. Our love for each other and for our children has deepened, and we appreciate each other more than ever.

A friend wrote a letter to us when Abby died and we had it printed in her memorial card. I'll post it in my blog today and I think you will like it too.

peridotz June 20 2006, 00:50:06 UTC

I think you are doing great.