Mistakes were made all around. Mistakes happen, it's part of life. I'm sorry you're hurt, I really am. But before you go pointing fingers, perhaps do a little self evaluation first.
You mentioned she gave you Nothing since that first conversation. Yet you've taken over the main bedroom, and the Living Room (lounge). In 2 and a half years you gave her only one birthday card, which you tore up in a fit of anger. I ask you, what have you given Her?
Emotional Blackmail, that's what you've given her. The constant threats of suicide only made the situation worse. It never occured to you that perhaps she cared enough about you to let you stick around till you could get out on your own two feet. You repay that kindness by emotional blackmail? with Hate?
It seems to me that the one being a selfish bitch was not her, but you.
Now again, I'm sorry you're hurt, but I could care less if you hate me. If it helps, by all means, hate me. Focus that Hate and turn it into some Positive changes in your life.
No I didn't. Until that conversation where she admitted things weren't going to change she was welcome in the bedroom. In fact in the last week she asked to sleep in the main bed due to problems getting to sleep and I without hesitation said "yes".
and the Living Room (lounge)
I at no time shut her out of the lounger. She was always welcome there. If it had not been for me going into HER room to talk to her we'd have had no contact. Any time she did come into the lounge I looked around and directly at her to acknowledge her presence and show I was ready to interact.
In 2 and a half years you gave her only one birthday card
Here it becomes obvious you've made no effort to find out about me at all. The very thought of leaving the flat for any reason, food, topping up gas/electricty, buying a birthday card, FILLS ME WITH TERROR. Ever since Amanda got too ill to work I have supported her in all ways imaginable, including paying ALL the bills when she had no income. I went with her to her
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I'm sorry that you got tossed aside so easily, but take into consideration that most likely they won't be together very long since they've never actually lived together...I'm sure she or he will find something terrible about the other person that drives them nuts and that will be the end of that. Been there, done that.
Best thing for you to do is to get out of there as soon as you can.
Hello there, few things you might want to consider:
1. Hate doesn't make you stronger, it only destroys you from the inside like slow acting acid. You may go that way, but it'll only backfire and make you feel miserable. In this case your own emotions is the enemy, not the choice made by a free and thinking adult.
2. If I were you, I wouldn't bet on fussycat's conscience much, we balts are hardened people from a more primitive time and place. So don't waste your time trying to make her feel something for you by portraying yourself as weak and suicidy, it won't work, and those are not the character traits that cause sympathy.
3. Don't cause problems to my sister. These days flights are cheap and the world is small.
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And now please go pack and get the f**k out of my flat.
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You mentioned she gave you Nothing since that first conversation. Yet you've taken over the main bedroom, and the Living Room (lounge). In 2 and a half years you gave her only one birthday card, which you tore up in a fit of anger. I ask you, what have you given Her?
Emotional Blackmail, that's what you've given her. The constant threats of suicide only made the situation worse. It never occured to you that perhaps she cared enough about you to let you stick around till you could get out on your own two feet. You repay that kindness by emotional blackmail? with Hate?
It seems to me that the one being a selfish bitch was not her, but you.
Now again, I'm sorry you're hurt, but I could care less if you hate me. If it helps, by all means, hate me. Focus that Hate and turn it into some Positive changes in your life.
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No I didn't. Until that conversation where she admitted things weren't going to change she was welcome in the bedroom. In fact in the last week she asked to sleep in the main bed due to problems getting to sleep and I without hesitation said "yes".
and the Living Room (lounge)
I at no time shut her out of the lounger. She was always welcome there. If it had not been for me going into HER room to talk to her we'd have had no contact. Any time she did come into the lounge I looked around and directly at her to acknowledge her presence and show I was ready to interact.
In 2 and a half years you gave her only one birthday card
Here it becomes obvious you've made no effort to find out about me at all. The very thought of leaving the flat for any reason, food, topping up gas/electricty, buying a birthday card, FILLS ME WITH TERROR. Ever since Amanda got too ill to work I have supported her in all ways imaginable, including paying ALL the bills when she had no income. I went with her to her ( ... )
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I'm sorry that you got tossed aside so easily, but take into consideration that most likely they won't be together very long since they've never actually lived together...I'm sure she or he will find something terrible about the other person that drives them nuts and that will be the end of that. Been there, done that.
Best thing for you to do is to get out of there as soon as you can.
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1. Hate doesn't make you stronger, it only destroys you from the inside like slow acting acid. You may go that way, but it'll only backfire and make you feel miserable.
In this case your own emotions is the enemy, not the choice made by a free and thinking adult.
2. If I were you, I wouldn't bet on fussycat's conscience much, we balts are hardened people from a more primitive time and place. So don't waste your time trying to make her feel something for you by portraying yourself as weak and suicidy, it won't work, and those are not the character traits that cause sympathy.
3. Don't cause problems to my sister. These days flights are cheap and the world is small.
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Suggest you do the same.
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