one for the Aspie couples out there

[rrrwoib]

My girlfriend, who I've mentioned in my previous post to this community, has Asperger's like me. We are not without our odd quirks, and one of them seems to be smirking at each other, hands on hips, and then pressing our foreheads together. The idea seems to be that she's going to make me stumble backwards, or I'll make her stumble, or something

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[necrotica]

My husband is NT, but I am always rubbing his head a few days after he shaves it because the stubble feels so good on my hands. Luckily he doesn't mind it when I do that.

[ratkrycek]

I love to rub my cheeks against my SOs' five o'clock shadows. I used to sit on my dad's lap as a kid, rubbing my cheeks against his; I still love the sensation.

Most of my partners have been NTs, and they didn't seem to mind.

[rainbow_goddess]

I pet my partner the way I pet my cats. I stroke his hair a lot. Sometimes he laughs and says "I'm not a kitty cat!" but he doesn't stop me doing it.

[finnyb]

I also tend to pet my husband the way I would a cat or bunny; he has one advantage over them, other than the fact that we don't have any pets right now--it's easier to get him to stay still! He laughed the first time I asked if I could pet him, but he doesn't stop me from doing so. In fact, he's often said he likes it and he sometimes asks me to do so--and he tends to purr while I'm petting him! (And no, he's not an Aspie, though his brother is [like me, undiagnosed/self-diagnosed--for me due to lack of money and insurance, for him due to I-don't-know-what], and so he's gotten rather used to our varying quirks--mine and his brother's, that is.)

Not sure if it's the same thing:

[sevenjades]

When I was growing up, my mother and I would do something like that, leaning against each other, trying to make the other person stumble or step backwards. I'm sure she felt it was boyish playing, since I'm 5'11 and she's 5"3 if she's a foot, but I always liked doing it, for the reasons you alluded to. It was relaxing. (For hte record- she always won in the end. Leverage and all.)

[sr_rivka42]

Yes. My partner and I are both on the spectrum, and mutual stimming, oftentimes in combination with cuddling, is definitely something which we do. Some of it is pretty standard displays of affection, I think, but a lot of what we do is stimm-y and unusual. I couldn't begin to describe it all here. We do things like swinging and flapping our hands together. We have a silly game where we touch the tip of each other's nose and make a certain sound. We repeat silly words to each other many times. Our relationship is full of silly and wonderful things like that.

[thetwitchychick]

My guy and I will press our heads against each other in a similar fashion. My guy (aspie, too) gets muscle cramps on his head and like to have them pressed and I like the pressure on my head. He also loves to have his head petted, so I pet him and really love how soft his hair.

[spekkiomow]

I can't identify, sadly. But your story is very sweet.