fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me

[annun]

So, this guy goes online and signs-up/registers with a website that provides, basically, an online, x-rated version of the SIMS, where you have a virtual character designed off of the physical description that you provide, and you can interact with other actual people. The kicker to this is that while in this virtual world you have your typical

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[jazdewills]

When is it not okay? When is it cheating? When it crosses agreed-upon boundaries. Since you didn't know of the existence of such a thing (talking just about the game aspect here), obviously you didn't make it clear that that was a boundary to you beforehand (I just say that because I know a lot of people would use that as their defense - "Well, I didn't KNOW you would have a problem with it, you never said anything..."). But when you discovered it, and talked to him about it, and made it clear that it WAS a boundary for you, then it became his decision to either respect your boundary or leave the relationship. Was there room for compromise? Yes (it sure sounds like had he changed his relationship status on the game, you'd have at least been willing to discuss more about it), but it doesn't sound like he was willing to compromise at all

[annun]

"The thing is, with his "the best defense is an offense" behavior (or at least, that's sure what it sounds like), it sure gives the impression that he feels it's cheating, too - at least to a degree - and so he's dealing with his guilt by avoiding and attacking you