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[angeduciel]

It upsets me how apathetic people can be. Maybe they're not really apathetic, but it's frustrating how people are so unwilling to confront others. I too am one of those people (sadly) but working with people makes me realize how easy it would be if everyone would be just more open. It doesn't help for me to find out about a problem you're having

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[blackwinds]

People are shy... afraid of problems that arises from confrontations. Then there are those who like to lay back and have things taken care for them, which yes like you said if you don't ask question and don't speak out what is the point of democracy, might has well have your life dictated like a herd of sheep.

I dunno what the SUS scandal is about, but general ppl just don't want to deal with the aftermath.

[afghanistanani]

Oooh, I got your e-mail! I didn't even have any idea that this scandal existed in the first place, but what you wrote was eloquent! And gutsy.

I sooooo sympathize with you about the puddle- and dirt-leaving. Namita would leave five pairs of shoes, and Justin two in our small entranceway (we had a closet) and the rocks would collect from Justin's massive hiking boots. So of course the dirt would spread to the rest of our living room. "Just put away all but one or two pairs of shoes that you wear frequently," I would suggest. I would get stared at like an alien. (<--That's the most infuriating part, being looked at like YOU'RE the unreasonable one.) And OF COURSE, nothing was ever cleaned. I wanted to take my own eye out.

[jono_kun]

I dunno, you don't seem to be the confrontational type. I find notes don't really drive the message home and face-to-face talking works best for getting your point across.

[piggytoes]

I so know what you mean about it being difficult to confront roommates about their annoying habits. Since you cleaned up your roommate the first time, you seem like you're being pretty tolerant about it. I tend to deal in the same way, if I can't find a way to be more flexible with my own standards. I definitely have to draw the line when I can't tolerate any more though

[angeduciel]

I think there are sometimes people that I don't get along with very well. She just seems to have these little habits that I find really annoying. I guess we're just not meant to be... She really isn't someone who's personality has allowed me to become really close with her. And I think because of that, it's harder to tell her that I find certain things annoying. You know what else I've realized? i can't live with my sister. She is just so much messier than me sometimes...

also, you should tell your roommate, that aside from the cleanliness issue, there's no point in recyling if he's going to leave his crap in the containers. it's going to clog up the machines. i'm glad he's cleaned up though. =)

[piggytoes]

Yeah, it's true. Sometimes there is only so much you can do, and maybe you are not compatible roomies.

My roommate sometimes does things that baffle me. It seems like common sense, so either he honestly doesn't get the concept of recycling (somewhat believable as he is not from Canada) or he's just being lazy. I tend to believe the latter because he should know by now.

[piggytoes]

How have you lived with your sister all the years before you moved to Montreal then?

[ming_a_ling]

I know how you feel. I am the type to avoid confrontations as well.
In the summer, I had a similar experience where one of our housemates would leave her dishes in the sink all the time, cluttering up the sink and counter space around it. I asked the other roommate if anyone told her about this, and she said no and that we just do her dishes for her, which is not the best solution because she would just keep leaving her dishes out. But it would have been better if we went and talked to her directly. I understand how you feel. As Jono said, talking face-to-face is prob the best solution... it's not necessarily arguing (it doesn't have to get to that point), just tell her that you'd appreciate it if she stops wearing her shoes inside the house because you cleaned the floor - maybe she didn't see the sign or was in a hurry or something ... I don't know, sometimes people do do things that they don't realize they are doing until someone tells them to face, I'm sure I do. I hope the situation gets better Lilz!