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[angeduciel]

It upsets me how apathetic people can be. Maybe they're not really apathetic, but it's frustrating how people are so unwilling to confront others. I too am one of those people (sadly) but working with people makes me realize how easy it would be if everyone would be just more open. It doesn't help for me to find out about a problem you're having

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[piggytoes]

I so know what you mean about it being difficult to confront roommates about their annoying habits. Since you cleaned up your roommate the first time, you seem like you're being pretty tolerant about it. I tend to deal in the same way, if I can't find a way to be more flexible with my own standards. I definitely have to draw the line when I can't tolerate any more though.

Like, a couple of weeks ago I left a note telling my roommate (the one that's not Ray) to empty out his recyclable containers before putting them in the recycling bin because he was leaving eggs, pizza crusts and juice in the containers. This was after I had talked about it with him face-to-face several times. My note said something like "If you keep doing this, I will move this stuff to your room for you to deal with" and ended on a somewhat nice note. It sounds kind of rude but he definitely knew he was being a slob and it was time for me to be more assertive about it. He has been neater so far and I don't feel any tension in the friendship. Of course, it may be different for your situation since I know he and I wouldn't get into a real fight over it. And also, I get the sense that he knows that he has lower standards of neatness than the average person and that Ray and I aren't being unreasonable to nag about certain things.

OMG, this comment got way longer than I expected. I just wanted to say that I sympathize with the challenges that come with living with roommates :)

[angeduciel]

I think there are sometimes people that I don't get along with very well. She just seems to have these little habits that I find really annoying. I guess we're just not meant to be... She really isn't someone who's personality has allowed me to become really close with her. And I think because of that, it's harder to tell her that I find certain things annoying. You know what else I've realized? i can't live with my sister. She is just so much messier than me sometimes...

also, you should tell your roommate, that aside from the cleanliness issue, there's no point in recyling if he's going to leave his crap in the containers. it's going to clog up the machines. i'm glad he's cleaned up though. =)

[piggytoes]

Yeah, it's true. Sometimes there is only so much you can do, and maybe you are not compatible roomies.

My roommate sometimes does things that baffle me. It seems like common sense, so either he honestly doesn't get the concept of recycling (somewhat believable as he is not from Canada) or he's just being lazy. I tend to believe the latter because he should know by now.

[piggytoes]

How have you lived with your sister all the years before you moved to Montreal then?

[angeduciel]

my mother cleaned up after us....

my room mate would walk in with her boots, though me and the other girl NEVER wore our shoes inside.

i wonder if we would have ever been good friends had we not lived together. i also realize that she's not as organized as i thought she was...