Comments | anamacha: LJ Idol 04.05, "Sexual Ethics and Me"

anamacha

LJ Idol 04.05, "Sexual Ethics and Me"

Dec 06, 2007 00:51

Everything I know about sex I learned in the back of a '57 Chevy pickup. Or the woods next to the Boys' Club. Or from Jamie Pencildick who said he fucked the cat. Never did believe that heinous claim. Later he told me he was gay -- not that that matters. But that claim always did hang in fetid air between us. And he did teach me how to ( Read more... )

introspection, lj idol, self

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lilmissmagic71 December 6 2007, 14:12:16 UTC

wow... this post is harsh... very revealing and supremely human... great job...

as a mom, I had already made the decision that I would make sure my two boys knew the reality and beauty of sex and all it's accoutrement... however, you have just struck the chord in me that will insure I answer any and all questions they may have and teach them that shame has no place in their sexuality...

thanks for the read!

anamacha December 6 2007, 20:56:30 UTC

thank you -- I appreciate your comments. Please do do that with your boys; I plan on doing that for my daughter, as much as I can, and as uncomfortable as it will be for me. I need to not perpetuate the cycle.

You sound like a mom a boy would be proud to have.

jennieknits December 6 2007, 15:08:41 UTC

Great entry.

I never had the shame shame guilt guilt, but I didn't have a healthy upbringing towards sexuality either. I hope that I'll be able to find the correct balance if I have children.

anamacha December 6 2007, 20:59:21 UTC

*nod* it's a tough road, especially when you have no healthy reference points. I do have a daughter, and she's already started masturbating -- well, not so much maybe, but she rubbed herself against the center stay in her car seat, and got a dreamy look on her face. Rather than getting upset, we simply told her that was something to be done in private.

Thanks for your comment!

libra_dragon December 6 2007, 17:31:43 UTC

You did really good on this entry.

Why does love have to be so complicated? Why can't people just love each other, without the specter of jealousy? Why can't we be more tolerant of each other's private choices? Why do parents not teach properly, allowing their kids to have kids?
I would love to know some answers to these questions myself.

and a total side note, the part about the guy who said he fucked the cat, oddly made me think of my brother as there was a rumor when we were kids that he did that (which was just rumor), but man it was brutual being called the cat fuckers sister.

anamacha December 6 2007, 21:01:22 UTC

Thank you -- I appreciate your comments. If I ever find an answer to those questions, I'll be sure to post about it here in LJ so all my friends can share in the knowledge ;)

You gotta wonder where such rumors get started. Then again, kida can be vicious.

miintikwa December 6 2007, 22:11:14 UTC

*hug*

anamacha December 7 2007, 00:54:41 UTC

heh, thanks darlin'. What was that for?

miintikwa December 7 2007, 00:59:00 UTC

Because I understand far too well what you speak of. ;) Roman Catholic, here, too.

anamacha December 7 2007, 01:37:51 UTC

HA! wow, I had no idea. You hide it well ;)

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wherdafux_d_cat December 7 2007, 04:26:01 UTC

Great entry, friend. It's cleanly written -- I don't mean smutless, I mean that there's no extra, no chaff floating around. Nicely done.

anamacha December 7 2007, 04:30:19 UTC

Thank you, dearheart. I appreciate your comments. See? The editing process is good for something! Everyone should edit! At least once.

I do it several times, at least for entires like this. And here I was worried that I was running on too long -- I usually have a specific length that I hold myself to, but this subject was a bronco bucking under me, and would not be held to that length.