The Expression of Interest

[ahunter3]

When you're a sissy femme male, you learn that indicating sexual interest in anyone is risky and can conjure hostility and contempt. If it happens to be male-bodied people that you like that way, you learn that not only the straight ones but the gay ones as well may regard you as creepy and pathetic and perverted and disgusting. If, on the other

Comments

[kanzeon_2040]

What you're describing sounds like a New Puritanism toward sex that is riding along with the Me Too movement. Not only is it bad to commit sexual assault, but it is bad to even want consensual sex with a woman. Just wanting to have sex is now bad - proving your male entitlement. Asking a coworker on a date is now equated with sexual assault. Saying nice things about a woman's appearance is creepy

[amw]

I like this idea of asexual social spaces. Personally, the older i've gotten the less interested i have become about sex. It's at the point now where i'd prefer not to read or watch or experience anything about it at all. I'm not a prude, i just find it boring and a waste of time. On the other hand, most of the social spaces i enjoy (like bars) would probably end up being classified as sexual anyway, so perhaps i'm going to be forced into situations where i have to deal with it regardless.

I definitely find it creepy when a man hits on me. I always did before, but i tried to ignore it. Now i tend to find it a bit offensive too. Like. There are apps for that. If you want to get laid, use the app. Don't flirt or come at me in person. I suppose that's the modern day "available" symbol: are you on the app?

[anais_pf]

I think that those people who think you were creepy are forgetting what it was like to be a teenager, and/or are people who don't like sex and never have. I also think wanting something secretly (and writing about it in your book later in life) is completely different from expressing that want out loud all the time.