A JunePride Mea Culpa: My Homophobia

[ahunter3]

I'm constantly blogging and posting to be recognized, included, understood as a genderqueer person. But acceptance within the MOGII community is a two-way street and I haven't always been the ideal poster child for good and non-judgmental attitudes. I think I am long beyond harboring nasty feelings and thoughts towards gay people but in the

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[kanzeon_2040]

Thank you for sharing this. It is similar to how many young closeted gay guys act -- they hate being accused of being gay so they adopt anti-gay attitudes ... even though they are gay themselves

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[livejournal]

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Sexuality v gender presentation

[eroticawriter]

I know lots of effeminate males. Ninety percent are straight and most of the other 10 percent are bisexual. I also know many gay males. Most of them are about as macho as a guy can be. You're not likely to find a more butch male than a gay leatherman. Unlike macho straight guys, gay leathermen have absolutely no exposure to anything female in their personal lives. But our society insists on equating "feminine male" with "gay."

I would, however, suggest that you not perpetuate the concept of homophobia. Those who hate on gays aren't afraid of them (although they might be afraid of their own sexuality and hate in others what they see in themselves) and "phobia" becomes an excuse just like the bible most have never read but use to justify their hatred. Homoenmity is a more accurate word, the "enmity" referring to "deep-seated hatred that seeks to oppose, harm, or defeat another".

I suspect you would relate to the main character in Playing With Dolls. He was inspired when I read a letter to an advice columnist in which the writer

RE: Sexuality v gender presentation

[ahunter3]

HI! Yes, I've been unduly conventional in my use of the term, and I've never thought it was a good one, for the same reasons you've specified.

I'm not put off by BDSM; I've explored the possibilities of doing FemDom / sissyboy (to varying degrees of satisfaction) within the BDSM scene myself. Thanks for the recommendation; I'll fetch a copy!

And thanks for your reply overall!

EDITED TO ADD: My, umm, dommy girlfriend tried to locate Playing with Dolls via Google and only found a slasher flick on IMDB. Can you elaborate on where we can find it?

Older blog post: Sexual Inversion as a Sexual Kink

RE: Sexuality v gender presentation

[eroticawriter]

I tried to leave a link in my original comment, but your settings marked it as spam. If you go to my website (transgressivewriter dot com), you'll find it listed under "Novels".

FYI, there are many, many, many variations of the FemDom/sissyboi dynamic. Keep exploring until you find the one that rings your chimes. >;-)

I.G. Frederick
aka
Korin Dushayl