NBSB

[alyssayuri]

you might be intrigued with what my title is...

i'm not sure if it's an international thing but as far as i'm concerned, it's not. I'm an NBSB. it just means, No Boyfriend Since Birth. yes, you may laugh at it but it's what we call it.

I'm already 18 (yup, 18!) and once in my life, i've never had a boyfriend before... i'm not asking for one but i

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[ewww]

When I felt like that, I learned to have more confidence in myself. You can say whatever you want to say about your looks in a negative way, but if you shine with some confidence, boys will be drawn to you.

Let your personality shine out like a beam of light.
Also, pamper yourself.
Everyone girl needs to feel sexy, confident, beautiful and smart.
Treat yourself like a queen.

Boys will come. You just might have to let them see who you really are. Shine, girl!
♥

[alyssayuri]

wow! thanks so much!!! never thought of it that way... i'm not the kind of girl who fixes myself up so maybe that's a bad thing. i'm not the type of girl who wears make up. i'm this relaxed girl and wears guys clothes cause it's more comfy... maybe letting myself change a little will also change for the better! thanks!

[r_t_r]

I'm seventeen. And I've had a crush on anyone besides fictional characters or men in movies, and I've never had a boyfriend obviously. It happens. I think what you have to tell yourself is that it'll happen when you're ready and you don't need a guy. Not really. If that doesn't work, glare at the happy couples. You're entiled. It always makes me feel better.

[alyssayuri]

i guess i think i'm not yet ready... maybe i'll get a culture shock if ever i get a boyfriend because i'm so new to it.

and i guess glaring at couples who are always doing PDA is worth laughing about! hahaha! thanks so much!

[marblespire]

I'd just like to point out that every girl is a NBSB for at least part of her life. It's not like people are born having boyfriends. ;) And don't take statistics seriously; a statistic will say anything if you torture it enough. Other people may be having boyfriends left and right, or sleeping around, or even getting married and having babies, but that doesn't mean you have to and it doesn't mean you should. It's okay to take your own path.

As to your issue... Well, I gotta admit, I'm not sure what to say. You've identified some of the issues that make it difficult for you to be active romantically. Would you like to address them? 'cuz you can. But there's not really anything I can say about that one way or the other; it's your life. The ball's in your court. Which is cool, if you think about it--imagine if the issue was something you didn't have control over. =)

[marblespire]

Oh, and, let me add that I too am an NBSB. I have never had a boyfriend in my 27 years of being a man on this earth.

Just to make you feel better. ;D

[alyssayuri]

true! i guess i'm just panicking... i guess i find it weird that i reached the "adult age" and never had a boyfriend. it's just that, i thought it would be great to at least experience a relationship in my younger age. hahaha! i think i'm just paranoid!

thanks for the advice, it is true that it is my life and, somehow, i control it. it would suck if things are forced in my life... and besides, i am happy! i have family, friends, school that could fill the emptiness. but it would still be different.

and about your follow up reply. you are a guy right? so therefore, you are an NBSB!!! hahaha! and i assume you're not an NGSB? hahaha! thanks again!

[burnedxoutxstar]

Have you ever been to the blog People of Walmart? I'm always astounded at the total freakshows that appear to have significant others. My point being... stop stressing about looks. Even if you were the ugliest person on the planet (not saying you are! lol), there's someone for you.

I think you definitely need to work on the confidence factor. First of all being 18 and not having a boyfriend is nothing to be ashamed off, weirded out by, etc. Anything younger than high school is usually totally without substance, and many high school relationships are pretty darn trivial. I had a long term boyfriend in high school and everyone around us was weirded out by *that*-- it's NOT the norm!!!!

Frankly, and I'm sure marblespire would agree, most guys aren't worth your time until at least your 20s anyway. They're a big mess of raging hormones and awkwardness in the teen years.

Stop stressing so much, girl. I'm living proof that some guys *like* fat chicks, LOL.

What are you into? Hobbies? Interests?

[alyssayuri]

hahaha! looks are so not a factor! i agree to that because i liked guys that are not that good looking. because i like them for who they are. i just thought that no guy has seen something in me... my friends tell me i'm nice, friendly and many more complementing adjectives but i think no guy has ever seen that in me...

yeah, i have to get more confidence to let myself be noticed. and i guess i have to wait for two more years to find for a decent guy! LOL!

anyway, thanks so much for the advice. it felt better!

[whereyouwalk]

I am 19 years. I've never had a boyfriend. Throughout high school, when my crushes didn't turn into relationships, I told myself I'd find a boyfriend. I'm a freshman in college now, and I had a freakout about a month ago over the fact that there are attractive guys ALL over campus and that I don't know any of them, and wasn't any closer to having a boyfriend than I was in high school.

But then I stopped and thought. The main reason girls our age freak out about not having a boyfriend is due to the fact that it's portrayed EVERYWHERE that girls need boyfriends. Every high school drama? Ends with the girl getting the guy of her dream. Quite honestly, that's not how life works, especially that young. Personally, I've stopped "looking" for a boyfriend. One, it just drives yourself crazy. Two, I've decided that I want to work on developing the person I am before getting emotionally involved with anyone else. I can't develop the person I am with someone else's emotions and thoughts and feelings attached to mine, can I? It's

[scorpio11681]

"So maybe take some time to be happy with yourself. Develop into the person you want to be and one day, maybe in a few months, maybe in a few years, you'll turn around and your perfect guy will be waiting there."

I liked this piece of advice so I'm using it as my FB status! :) GOOD!!!

[whereyouwalk]

Thank you! I love knowing that I've helped someone. :)

[sigma698]

Hi, I'm in love with your icon ♥

Ahem.

And to make this relevant to the topic at hand:

Personally, I've stopped "looking" for a boyfriend. One, it just drives yourself crazy. Two, I've decided that I want to work on developing the person I am before getting emotionally involved with anyone else

This so hard. You know that saying you have to learn to love yourself before you can love somebody else? Or is it a song? Anyway, it's true. If you're not happy with yourself, you tend to "settle". Settle for someone who's not right for you, just because they're interested. Settle for less than you deserve. Also, romantic relationships seem to happen when you least expect them. It seems that if you stop searching for a relationship and do your own thing, that's when you meet someone awesome :)