NBSB

[alyssayuri]

you might be intrigued with what my title is...

i'm not sure if it's an international thing but as far as i'm concerned, it's not. I'm an NBSB. it just means, No Boyfriend Since Birth. yes, you may laugh at it but it's what we call it.

I'm already 18 (yup, 18!) and once in my life, i've never had a boyfriend before... i'm not asking for one but i

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[whereyouwalk]

I am 19 years. I've never had a boyfriend. Throughout high school, when my crushes didn't turn into relationships, I told myself I'd find a boyfriend. I'm a freshman in college now, and I had a freakout about a month ago over the fact that there are attractive guys ALL over campus and that I don't know any of them, and wasn't any closer to having a boyfriend than I was in high school.

But then I stopped and thought. The main reason girls our age freak out about not having a boyfriend is due to the fact that it's portrayed EVERYWHERE that girls need boyfriends. Every high school drama? Ends with the girl getting the guy of her dream. Quite honestly, that's not how life works, especially that young. Personally, I've stopped "looking" for a boyfriend. One, it just drives yourself crazy. Two, I've decided that I want to work on developing the person I am before getting emotionally involved with anyone else. I can't develop the person I am with someone else's emotions and thoughts and feelings attached to mine, can I? It's partially a religous thing for me also (I want to develop my relationship with God), but it doesn't have to be to be okay with being single.

So maybe take some time to be happy with yourself. Develop into the person you want to be and one day, maybe in a few months, maybe in a few years, you'll turn around and your perfect guy will be waiting there.

[scorpio11681]

"So maybe take some time to be happy with yourself. Develop into the person you want to be and one day, maybe in a few months, maybe in a few years, you'll turn around and your perfect guy will be waiting there."

I liked this piece of advice so I'm using it as my FB status! :) GOOD!!!

[whereyouwalk]

Thank you! I love knowing that I've helped someone. :)

[sigma698]

Hi, I'm in love with your icon ♥

Ahem.

And to make this relevant to the topic at hand:

Personally, I've stopped "looking" for a boyfriend. One, it just drives yourself crazy. Two, I've decided that I want to work on developing the person I am before getting emotionally involved with anyone else

This so hard. You know that saying you have to learn to love yourself before you can love somebody else? Or is it a song? Anyway, it's true. If you're not happy with yourself, you tend to "settle". Settle for someone who's not right for you, just because they're interested. Settle for less than you deserve. Also, romantic relationships seem to happen when you least expect them. It seems that if you stop searching for a relationship and do your own thing, that's when you meet someone awesome :)

[whereyouwalk]

Lol, I love Darren Criss so much! <3

And yeah, it definitely isn't easy. But once you start sticking to it, focusing on yourself rather than focusing on finding a relationship makes you feel pretty fantastic. On the days I spent focusing my energy on other people's attentions, I felt worthless and lonely at the end of the day. But now, take today for example, today I had a day full of things that I wanted to do and I wanted to accomplish and I did them all for me and I felt really proud of myself. And now, it's the end of the day and I'm happy and content. :D I know I've got plenty of time for a romantic relationship, but right now, I'm enjoying focusing on what make me happy. :)

[alyssayuri]

good points! actually right now, i am happy. i got family, friends and school to keep me busy. i think you're also right about the fact that girls are suppose to have boyfriends...

and maybe God is just making sure that i'll be ready in all aspects, emotionally, socially and such, so that i will be ready for what He will give me.

thanks for the advice!!! i really appreciated it.