Comments | advice4teens: Coping with loneliness?

luckyasteroid in advice4teens

Coping with loneliness?

Nov 16, 2010 10:55

Hello, I'm saw this community on the front page and thought I would ask for some advice, if that is alright.

( Cut for less exposure to my whining... (: )

friendships, working through problems, mental health

Comments 11

tillymint November 16 2010, 19:49:43 UTC

I'd say it's still early days. Everyone in college is just starting to find their feet, and I'm sure that there are others who feel exactly same way as you ( ... )

toomuchfandom November 16 2010, 19:58:34 UTC

I hear you, Lucky. I moved high schools in my last year and took college in the same town, I had to make new friends (I was very awkward at it too), and sad to say is that they never lasted, those friendships. It's the friendships I made after that that are lasting; people (and myself) have grown up.

What helped with the awkwardness and loneliness is find something I really loved, what I was passionate about. That was listening to music and write. Poetry, stories... I found some pen pals back in the day in a magazine and wrote them very long letters (didn't last, but it kept me occupied).

I made the most of being alone; I went to the cinema's alone, I went to karaoke bars on my own and just entertained myself and chatter with unknown people.

So yes, find something you really love to do and do it. Keep interacting with the people around you in school even though you don't really feel as if you fit in.

slyprentice November 16 2010, 19:59:08 UTC

Have you tried looking into any of the student/community groups available through your college? Information about them is usually available through the student union (or whatever variation of that your college provides). They're an excellent way of meeting new people who have similar interests to your own and a good way of making you feel more connected to those around you, even if you're not the most vociferous of the lot.

Also, I just want to say that fitting in to a group isn't everything; the majority of the friends I have now are so different than me that we might as well be on different planets, but that's what keeps things interesting. :)

defray November 16 2010, 21:16:39 UTC

holy crap i know exactly how you feel. i'm 18 and going to community college this year (i just graduated high school in june). it really sucks, it does. i haven't spoken to some of my best friends from high school since graduation. i miss them terribly, i do. but all of them are living their own lives now. they've all moved on. and it's like hard for me to be a part of those old friendships i had anymore. because it's troublesome to keep in contact with them besides on facebook. everyone has their own agenda and they come home from college at different times and it's hard to coordinate anything ( ... )

defray November 16 2010, 21:17:05 UTC

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morganna_le November 16 2010, 23:02:14 UTC

It's amazing how much time gets spent waiting. Even when you know that one day you'll meet someone special, or someones special, and that things will get easier, you always get yanked back into the dull, daily now by something or other. I think that feeling is a part of life, but an enormous part of being young ( ... )