Coping with loneliness?
Hello, I'm saw this community on the front page and thought I would ask for some advice, if that is alright.
( Cut for less exposure to my whining... (: )
( Cut for less exposure to my whining... (: )
so what i can tell you in this very incoherent message (it's very rushed and unorganized but i have to leave for work in like 20 min) is: keep trying to make friends in college and work/church/wherever you go. keep at it. eventually you will find someone who can be a caring friend. there is bound to be at least one person. and the more classes you take, the higher the chance of meeting a person who is compatible with you (friendship-wise). so be more outspoken and keep trying. don't be afraid of rejection either. if someone rejects you, then it sucks to be them because they just missed out on being friends with YOU, so it's their loss.
as for short term... if you are feeling particularly down or depressed, do things that make you happy. watch anime, draw things in your sketchbook, listen to music, watch your tv shows: whatever you do that makes u content. maybe you can even make some friends on livejournal who are involved in the same fandoms that you are involved in, eh? who knows. when i am really lonley and there is no one home in my house and my boyfriend isn't around, i talk to people on the computer. internet-friends can actually be very helpful if you need to vent to someone. there's no way of seeing them IRL (for the most part usually) so you are free to tell them anything and they can't possibly betray your trust because they probably have no idea who you really are. i always rant to my internet, msn and roleplay friends, and they don't mind, because they rant to me too when they need to. in that way, we are like each other's personal diaries. and if i have something i feel that i need to say which i can't tell one of my internet friends, then i'll write an LJ entry to just get the feelings off my chest, and after that i always feel better. even if no one knows those feelings at least i wrote them down, i cataloged them and moved them from my brain to the computer, so they are no longer swirling in my head.
so: be more outspoken, get involved in student groups if u aren't already (it sounds like you are though), and do things you love and are passionate about (like the other commenters said) to keep you busy. if you are busy, there shouldn't be any time to be lonely. ;)
even though this is a hard time in your life, you will get through it. just be patient. :)
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