I miss you mom...

[absolutefiction]

Oh man, I had a great talk with my dad earlier tonight. I'm so glad I called him up because I was finally able to bring up some issues that I've been keeping to myself for a long time. It definitely feels like that weight has been lifted off my shoulders

Comments

[oudeteron]

I can only repeat what you've already said - you should talk to your mom about this. It's just unfair you had to move from where you were happy and with no result. I don't know what to advise you, except to try to get through this situation. But that will be difficult if they don't care enough to actually listen...

*HUGS*

[absolutefiction]

Thanks, I know I have to push myself to talk with her and I will. *hugs* I'm so glad I have friends on this site; it just wouldn't be the same without you guys caring so much.

[miyavis_gazette]

There are so many things that you SHOULD do, and then there are only so many things that you WILL do. I know that talking to a parent about how you feel about them is really hard. Especially when they're kind of your only parent around. It's like you don't want to talk to them because you're afraid that they're either going to be plain rude about it, or they're going to be inconsiderate. It's okay that you feel like this, I mean you see how much I rant about my dad on my LJ. I've never talked to him about the way I feel about him either. And I know how annoying it can be when everybody tells you to talk to your parent, but they don't know exactly how hard it can be sometimes.

[absolutefiction]

Well for me, talking back to my mom about something like this is definitely going to be a milestone for me. I've always been the type of kid who worships their mother and believes that everything they do and did was right.

I'm getting to a point in my life where I can finally see my mom for who she truly is and see the mistakes she has made. My dad said it's completely natural to feel like this; it's called 'growing up'. =)

And thanks. I do know that it can be annoying being hounded by people telling you to talk with your mom. I'll take them into consideration but ultimately the decision is up to us whether we want to or not.

[x_triangulated]

i'm glad you had a talk with your dad. must have made you feel a whole lot better. =]

like what the others said, i think you should talk to your mother, but try as hard as you can to not think about her reaction, and just go forward without any apprehension. you probably hold all the power to change the current situation, just by coming to terms with your mom or even with your stepdad. if you try hard enough, things can only get worse, or better. i'd take that chance.

also that religion thing is really pissing me off. x[ again, that could be something you could talk about with your mom. this might be harder to deal with, but i still believe you could do it.

all the best. <333

[absolutefiction]

Aww, thanks. I love you guys!

Talking with my dad made me feel so much better. I seriously felt that weight lifted off my shoulders everytime he told me that what I was feeling was perfectly normal and that it had everything to do with me growing up and seeing my mom for who she truly is: a human.

I'm definitely going to work towards talking to my mom about this but I think I might try baby steps and just ask her to spend more time with me.

But thanks you much. <3

[dirumiyavi]

If you do try talking to your mum and she gets all defensive volume always wins. >.>
i'm horrible at giving advice but if she gets defensive or just shrugs it off. start yelling. that will get your point across and also show how upset and angry you are about the whole situation.

[absolutefiction]

Yeah, kinda already did that and it never really got my point across the way I wanted it to. Not saying that you're wrong, it's just I think I need to try a new approach to this.

Because I know that if someone yelled at me, I'd get even more defensive. XD

[dirumiyavi]

ahh. well when you do talk to her make sure no one else is around. last thing you want is to be ganged up on by everyone else. ... -_-; man i hate that.
good luck for when you do talk to her and i hope everything works out :)

[absolutefiction]

Yeah, alone is definitely a good thing.

And thanks. =)

[renuki]

D:

Good luck.

[absolutefiction]

*gulp* Thanks.

[renuki]

Welcome!