I hate to admit it but... yeah sometimes it's not about just 'it didn't happen' but a lot of other dates have had tragedies just like this and worse attached to them. I don't think forgetting, but I don't think holding it as some sacred or holy date is a good idea either you know? You lost someone on that date and so did many people... but do many people on a lot of other days. It may not hold the same meaning to you as it does for other people but letting it go some is also not a bad thing...
also, and sorry but I think it's just as 'selfish' to think that because *you* lost someone it means someone else can't show off their wedding dress for that date... and think that it's okay to... To me, as a Venezuelan who had someone they loved hurt on Sept. 11th think that the attitude you're showing in this post is no more selfish than her showing off her dress and pretty tiara because she wants to have a good thought assossiated with a day that is just a date... Sept. 11th is so much more than just a bunch of death obituary dates. It is sad, it was tragic, it is now done and we don't need it rubbed into us... and in 100 years I am sure people will still remember but the same we remember D-day or any other date where any country lost even more people. I know a few dates americans don't of a lot more deaths and they get married and have parties and you know what? that's FINE because it's a day... the memory lives on but we don't need to think 'omg ignorant! selfish!' just because we can'¡t let go a little of our own grief
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and sorry but I think it's just as 'selfish' to think that because *you* lost someone it means someone else can't show off their wedding dress for that date...
Wow. I could not disagree with you more. I do not think she is being selfish whatsoever. As an American, 9/11 will always be a national day for remembering. There are three hundred plus days to marry, an American ought to pick one of them out of respect for their country.
I don't take issue with people choosing the 11th as their wedding date. I take issue with people acting like I should treat it like any other day and "get over it."
I'm not sure if you actually read the post or the comments that my post was stemming from, so I am going to assume you didn't. Pardon me if that is not the case
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What an asshat comment. Move on? For real? You aren't alone, that mindset really pisses me off, too.
I wonder how the hell they would feel if they swept people's ASHES from their windowsills for those days following 9/11. Or inhaled the lovely crematory aroma. Move on? Yeah, go through it then tell me to 'move on'. Show me a New Yorker who isn't doped on prescriptions or weed that doesn't cringe at the sound of planes flying too low or too many sirens all at once.
Exactly! The vast majority of these r-tards are people who have probably only ever seen NYC on television. They are probably the same ones who days after the attack went on talking about how they know someone who knew someone who used to fuck someone who had a boss who traveled to NY and bought a bagel from a guy who died there that day. As though they had to play Six Degrees of Separation to a murder victim because that somehow made THEM more important.
I was miserable when I first moved to the Boston area because the town we lived in was in the landing flight path to Logan. I wouldn't cringe at the sound of planes flying too low. I would stop my car and bawl, or run back into the house if I was outside. It scared the living shit out of me. I knew, logically they were just landing, but when planes are so low I can count the number of bolts on a panel AND I was in NY for 9/11 AND I lost someone, it doesn't get any easier.
i thing its brilliant that people who are spending tens to close sometimes a hundred thousand dollars on a DAY just because of the emotions and sentiment attached to it totally brush off feelings someone else may have of a certain day... and to trivialize the feelings of millions affected globally to saying they wouldnt get married on july 2nd because their fucking cat mr whiskers got hit by an ice cream truck is even worse... if i was to go on and call her a dizzy bitch for putting so much thought, time, money and effort into an antiquated ceremony, maybe they would call me a bit callous
im bothered we arent angry as a nation anymore, it saddens me even more we dont care
Thank you. The hypocrisy is astounding. But apparently I'm wrong for pointing it out.
My biggest worry in the weeks afterwards was never "what if it happens again?" but "what happens when people stop being this kind to one another." People who did not live in NY do not have a clue what it was like there. And they cannot possibly know the sadness that comes with realizing that after seeing that people can be good, kind, and considerate to one another, that it simply is not sustainable.
LOL! Thank you! I actually decided to leave the community because I'm (a) not interested in the drama and (b) want to ensure I'm not getting any of my wedding advice from these assholes.
Yeah, I really haven't gained anything all that useful from the community. I just like looking at the pretty pictures of dresses. Besides, if you have any questions there are tons of other places to look for answers! Good choice to leave...
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Wow. I could not disagree with you more. I do not think she is being selfish whatsoever. As an American, 9/11 will always be a national day for remembering. There are three hundred plus days to marry, an American ought to pick one of them out of respect for their country.
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I wonder how the hell they would feel if they swept people's ASHES from their windowsills for those days following 9/11. Or inhaled the lovely crematory aroma. Move on? Yeah, go through it then tell me to 'move on'. Show me a New Yorker who isn't doped on prescriptions or weed that doesn't cringe at the sound of planes flying too low or too many sirens all at once.
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I was miserable when I first moved to the Boston area because the town we lived in was in the landing flight path to Logan. I wouldn't cringe at the sound of planes flying too low. I would stop my car and bawl, or run back into the house if I was outside. It scared the living shit out of me. I knew, logically they were just landing, but when planes are so low I can count the number of bolts on a panel AND I was in NY for 9/11 AND I lost someone, it doesn't get any easier.
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im bothered we arent angry as a nation anymore, it saddens me even more we dont care
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My biggest worry in the weeks afterwards was never "what if it happens again?" but "what happens when people stop being this kind to one another." People who did not live in NY do not have a clue what it was like there. And they cannot possibly know the sadness that comes with realizing that after seeing that people can be good, kind, and considerate to one another, that it simply is not sustainable.
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