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artzgirl1987 in _survivors_

Sad.

Apr 20, 2008 10:37

This is an entry from my personal journal. Sometimes it seems like you can't get away from it.

One of the girls in my abuse support group committed suicide this past week. It was too much for her, and it's so sad. She could've worked through it, she could've found the strength. She's could've not let her abuser win. The support wasn't there for her ( Read more... )

suicide, victim-blaming

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artzgirl1987 April 20 2008, 20:27:42 UTC

I didn't know her either, but I feel the same as you. I want to try to be more active in the group, because things like that don't have to happen. =(

I agree, you do need to feel your feelings. I just don't want to let it make me bitter. I feel the bitterness sometimes, and I don't want it to take over. You know? I've been through the cutting. I haven't cut for about two years, but I still get urges.

jannedoe April 20 2008, 19:06:54 UTC

*safe hugs* I don't have the words, hun. I feel your pain... forgiving doesn't come easily, and it isn't something to be handed out like candy.

artzgirl1987 April 20 2008, 20:24:30 UTC

Nope and nope.

::hugs back::

igosm April 20 2008, 19:18:06 UTC

I read that forgiveness is not something you do/give. It's something you feel after you've worked through it enough that it's just not so much an issue any more. So rather than working on forgiveness you work on your own wellness. At least that's possible.

Is Dad the abuser? Telling you you NEED to forgive. To me the abuser hasn't the right to ask for forgiveness, their only right is to make amends.

Emma

artzgirl1987 April 20 2008, 20:23:22 UTC

No, he's not the abuser.

He use to have a temper when I was younger and would yell at me and call me names, but he's changed a lot. He's a different person now.

My abuser was a 40+ yr old maintenance worker. Yuck. >.<

I agree with what you said. Thanks. =)

herlongnovember April 20 2008, 19:58:33 UTC

as I read this I gasped out loud
that's just so heartbreaking
I'm just so sorry to hear that

sending my support and good thoughts your way

artzgirl1987 April 20 2008, 20:20:50 UTC

Thanks =)

herlongnovember April 20 2008, 21:27:49 UTC

welcome
-safe hugs-

blueserenity22 April 20 2008, 21:48:01 UTC

**hugs** Forgiveness can be a very important part of healing, but it is not something to rush. It will happen when it happens (or sometimes it doesn't, and that can be okay), and there's nothing wrong with that.

♥

artzgirl1987 April 21 2008, 16:18:30 UTC

Thanks. ::hugs::