Betrayal

[igosm]

 
He's called me to tell me he's spending the night at someone else's house.  He doesn't even give a first name.  It's a woman for certain.  I don't think he'll sleep with her because then he'd know he's a liar, because it's all about meditation and stuff so that makes it okay.  He's Spending the night at some woman's house and that's supposed to be

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[blueserenity22]

Oh, honey *safe hugs* Here's the best advice I can offer.

Talk to him. Try not to assume that you know what he is going to say to everything you ask/want to know. You could be 100% right and he could just be a total jerk. But maybe not.

If you feel like it's not even worth it and you don't care even if he does have a good reason for staying there (or that there *is* no other reason than what you feel), then that's fine. There's no right (or wrong) answer.

Here's my philosophy with life: I make decisions that allow me to face myself in the mirror every morning. If you feel one decision or another will allow you to do that better, then do that. It sounds like a tough situation.

*more safe hugs* I wish you the best of luck, hon. You're in my thoughts.

I just don't know how much sadness I can stand...

[igosm]

I guess it was always there, waiting for him to go. One of his big complaints is that I wouldn't go out in a crowd to go dancing on New years. How can afraid of crowds anyway, can't dance anyway do that for him? I'd be handicapped for the beginning of the year, not to mention the pressure to imbibe which is innappropriate for me

Re: I just don't know how much sadness I can stand...

[blueserenity22]

**many safe hugs**

I wish things were better :( 7 years is a long time, and he should be more considerate. I can understand the frustration if you can't go out, but there needs to be understanding to YOU from him as well.

I don't think you need to be loving. Being 'loving' and 'understanding' can just get you walked over. If I were you, I'd demand the truth. You deserve the truth. Maybe it's different from what you think and maybe it's not. But either way he is being disrespectful to your feelings and your emotional well-being.

You're in my thoughts. ♥

Re: I just don't know how much sadness I can stand...

[igosm]

There is some advice I can take. he's talked to me several times today, all nice and sweet. as if nothing is happenning. How can he turn it on and off like that. He knows how I am that once I am angry it takes forever for the physical part to go.. (my hot head, my achey chest, my furrowed brow) Part of me wants to act out. To Stick it to him to show him what it feels like. I've been kowtowing too long I will admit. I have to ASK to use the car. Who's income PAYS for the car, Hmmmm? How can we afford the insurance? Mine will drop to nothingness with him off of it. He wouldn't be able to drive. Unless she has money and is willing to support him.. I don't think he's done the math.. I really don't.

of course I can stand more...

[igosm]

I lived through two parents dying - actually I am really tough..