In Which My Mother Is Worse Than I Knew

[00goddess]

So, you know, sometimes I still feel really angry about my mother. And, after many years of denying that anyone was to blame for my life's problems, blah blah, I realized after years of therapy that actually, my mother IS to blame for almost all of my life's problems. That doesn't mean that I think it's her job to FIX my life's problems; that's my

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[ashbet]

Oh, honey, I am so sorry. I completely understand why this is a betrayal, and why it's hurtful that L is defending your mother (it's probably very important to her to have this idealized picture of your mother, because then she can deny being abused/neglected, which may be vital to her current self-concept) . . . even so, she's denying the TRUTH, which denies your lived experience.

Love you, sweetheart, and I'm so sorry that you were parented so poorly and made to feel unwanted and unloved by the person who is supposed to always have your back :/

*gentle hugs*

-- A <3

[kitten_goddess]

I'm so sorry your mother did all this to you, then has the nerve to act like nothing happened.

[00goddess]

Thanks. And that is part of the worst bit, really: she acts like she was an awesome parent and never did anything wrong. Especially the last several years, she has suddenly decided that she wants a relationship with me. But she doesn't ever admit any fault or apologize, she just keeps lying and tries to make awkward and offensive overtures that she thinks are friendly.